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    johnjohn819 Posts: 6, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 26, 2012, 04:37 AM
    Conflict.
    My girl and I just broke up. We have a new born baby and we live together paying half on everything. She recently told me that the feelings aren't there anymore so were roommates now. The big problem is she talking to a new guy already and I can tell she really likes him. Normally I would let her go but I want to raise our child as a family which might be selfish of me.

    Leaving would be weird as we take shifts with the baby I work days she works nights. I'm just a little conflicted on this situation. I want to fight for her but I can't make her want me back. But if there's a way there's nothing I wouldn't do to have her love me again. I'm thinking I should plan on moving because our apartment is in her name and down the line she might feel it’s too awkward as I do and tell me leave.

    She seems so happy now I don't want to ruin what she has and hate me for it. But I'm hurting right now. Advice please.
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    Aug 27, 2012, 06:50 AM
    I have no personal familiarity with this type of situation, but I'll try to help out. If she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, there's no way to force that to happen. But you two have a baby together, so there will always be some connection between you and I admire your desire to be a good father to that baby. My advice would be first of all to tell her how you feel. Let her know how much being a family matters to you, but that you understand her feelings as well. You always have to have honest communication. Second, I think you probably should find your own place before things become awkward and/or stressed. But, find a place that's close to where the three of you are currently living so that you can maintain your involvement in your child's life (without infringing on her privacy).
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    Aug 27, 2012, 11:59 AM
    That's what I was thinking but then there fine be child support and more junk. I'm thinking about putting myself on to avoid them taking so much but I have to ride it out for a few months to put some money up then I can pay to break the lease
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    Aug 27, 2012, 12:13 PM
    If you broke up then you should be talking BUSINESS about finances and parenting. I would have been long gone myself and she knows she either has to move herself,or get a room mate.

    How old are you and how long have you been together? How old is your new born? Doesn't sound like either one of you is handling the real business at hand.
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    Aug 27, 2012, 03:05 PM
    I'm 26 we been together 3 yrs. I need her to drive for me until January and she need a car so its more to it once I can drive on my own then I can leave but Ima hang tight until then but I'm also in the processes of look for places in the city we live in
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