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    mjp1991 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 9, 2012, 04:15 AM
    Choice between my girlfriend or my friends
    Hi I'm really struck on what to do... Basically I'm 20 and have been with my girlfriend for just over 2 years. We both love each other to bits and want to be together forever. She has in the past been unfaithful after we had an argument and she went out for a drink but through a long discussion we built our relationship over this and made it stronger and I forgave her. Everything was going great. I told her I would go away with her this year and not on holiday with my mates. However I broke that promise and have booked up to go away with my mates. I'm still going away with her and paying for everything but now she is saying that if I go away with my mates then she will have to leave me as it proves I do not love her as I'm going against my promise. The place I'm going with my mates also is a place we spoke about going together.

    Currently I'm still with her and have 5 weeks till our holiday together and after that we are due to break up... I really don't want to lose her and I know she is so upset and really hurting and I feel that all this could have been prevented had I of kept my promise. But I can't go back on my word now with my friends and part of me wants to go as a way of getting back for what she done to me. I'm trying to get over her but can't every time I see a picture of her I think about what I have lost and the future that we planned to have and now its gone. I can't ever see myself being as happy as I am with her with anybody else.
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    Feb 13, 2012, 04:11 AM
    You need to stick to your guns and go away with your friends. If she really loves as much as she says, she will accept it eventually. As much as you love her imagine a life with someone who tells you what you can and cannot do all of the time, have a conversation with her, sit her down and explain it. I am guessing she doesn't trust you because she doesn't trust herself. You are 20 years old, enjoy your life, believe me it passes by so quickly
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Feb 13, 2012, 06:29 PM
    You forgave her already so you don't justify sticking to your guns as revenge for past behavior. No need, and if you are going to break up, I surely would before this holiday. Can't imagine having fun know the end was near.

    That's manipulation on her part, pure and simple so dump her before you spend your loot, and have fun with friends. Dude, you can do better, and will after you have recovered from this one.

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