Myself and ex have 2 children - she left me this time last year and I was absolutely heartbroken - really really took it badly. I struggled to deal with it all throughout the past year especially as the guy she was with was particularly nasty to me and my family who are very close to me and my kids. I always have my kids overnight at the weekends and a day in the week - this was the arrangement and I've never once deviated away from that setup.

There has been a massive change in my ex's life recently along with some difficult decisions to make in her life she has split up with the guy she left me for - this I have to say for me and my kids is good news - it turns out for her that way as well. Since they split I have more or less seen her everyday - I never stopped telling her I loved her over the past year and wanted maybe expected us to get together again despite everything that had happened - I just wanted her back and as a family again.

My ex however has been seeing a new guy for just over 2 weeks - I have known from the start but continued to be around her all this time. They seem to be very close already and the majority of her thinking seems to be focused on this new guy - it is so hard for me to take but I don't want to give up on her... I am helping her out with the kids when it's not my time to have them and generally being selfless and letting her know I care for her and love her sooo much. She says she is thankful and feels guilty because she know how I feel but she doesn't love me like that back.

It is gutting - I really do love her, I get a lot of attention of other women but all I want is her. I had been with women since we first split - I got used to her being with the 1st guy. I'm now back to square 1 as I'm feeling heartbroken and lost again as I did last year - I can't think of anyone else and every time I look at her I want to hug her. I really feel like I love her and only her - she cheated on me and left me and also treated me badly over the last year - I don't understand why I can't let go - in fact I don't want to let go - I really need some advice as its killing me not being able to be with her.

Go see a counselor to talk about how you are feeling, he/she will listen to what you have to say, try it and good luck :D
Mike

When she broke up with the other guy you got a little bit of false hope, and that makes the new guy even harder to accept. Basically guy, you do what you did before to survive, and keep moving on. Yes you are starting over at square one, but you have done it before, you will do it again, and be better at dealing with false hope in the future.

I do wish you luck, because I know it sucks. But just remember,

she cheated on me and left me and also treated me badly over the last year

When you feel bad just remember the not so good times.