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    precious12992 Posts: 21, Reputation: 2
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    Dec 19, 2009, 08:49 PM
    break-up problems
    so I was dating a guy for 6months. We then broke up. Went 3-4 months without talking. Then he was drinking a bit one night and texts me saying how sorry he is for all the hurt he has caused me... then we talked non-stop for weeks. Then again he would go party and drink.. he would text me saying how pretty I am. So the next day or so I talk to him about it. The thing is he has a girl that he likes. But they have had a thing for 2 months and he hasn't asked her out yet. He says "im waiting for the right moment to ask her out" but yet me and him hung out many times and within a month. He asked me out. Everything was basically perfect. So recently I spent the night at his house because me and his sister are pretty much best friends now. And the next morning I went into his room to ask for a goodbye hug but he was laying in his bed because it was early. And I had to be home. So we gave each other a hug. Talked a bit and he asked me to give him a back massage because he was really sore from working out and helping his friend on his friend's farm. So I did. While I was giving him a massage he like reached for my hand and wanted to just touch my hand. (while I was still massaging his back). Then I was done he asked if I wanted a back massage I said yes. So he gave me one. He was massaging my back but under my shirt. Not getting to physical. Then we were done doing that. He laid back down on his pillow and I was just laying down but not on his pillow. Propped up. Just talking. And then he asked if I was cold I said a little then he gave me some blanket and some of his pillow so that I wouldn't "hurt my neck and get sore" then he kept getting closer to my face. He put his arm around me and started cuddling. So I cuddled back. Then he's like ugh I shouldn't be doing this. I'm like yeah that's true. Then we talked more. And he randomly grab my butt.and then he said that what we did like the massage and cuddling and him grabbing meant nothing because he likes another girl. I'm just wondering is it that he still wants me or does he want both or what is going through his mind?
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    Dec 19, 2009, 09:33 PM
    He wants whatever he can get, or what's given to him. But he let you know that he likes another, so why even let the thought of if he likes you, go through your head? I doubt he kicks you out of bed if he thought you were willing. He is single, though he has plans for someone else.

    What are you trying to change his mind?
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    Dec 19, 2009, 09:35 PM

    Well I still have feelings for him and he knows it.
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    Dec 19, 2009, 10:35 PM
    Because you have feelings, does that mean you give up your dignity, or self respect, and be used?

    I suggest you deal with your feelings in a better way than handing over your heart to someone to use it. You owe yourself that, at least.
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    Dec 20, 2009, 12:46 AM
    I suggest you get over those feelings and don't go down heartbreak street playing into the hands of a player.
    He's using you. Don't let him.

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