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worriedmummy09 · Jun 15, 2009, 11:21 AM

Hi, me and my partner have just split we lived together with our young child, when we were seting up home we got rid of all of my furniture and appliances to get "our own" things as I have poor credit he got a lot of it in his name I did contribute to the house as well as he did, but now he has moved out he is coming to take EVERYTHING he has brought, where do I stand with this as I am so worried and will have more or less nothing.

88sunflower · Jun 15, 2009, 11:33 AM

Did you ask about this situation? Maybe since you helped out also half of it can stay with you. That only seems fair.

worriedmummy09 · Jun 15, 2009, 12:10 PM

I have suggested this to him, his answer was he is going to need it all when he gets his own place.

88sunflower · Jun 15, 2009, 12:17 PM

Well what about you and your child? That's being a bit sellfish of him. Is your child one you had together? Well if he wants to be that way don't hesitate for going for support. I hate to be like that but if he is unwilling to compromise with you. You built your life together I think you can separate it together now equally also.

talaniman · Jun 15, 2009, 02:43 PM

Stand up for you, and your baby, and don't allow him EVERYTHING.

worriedmummy09 · Jul 3, 2009, 01:14 AM

I have tried standing up but he said he's not going to leave me with nothing he will wait until I get new before he takes "our stuff!" I suggested he gave me less maintenance 2 cover the costs of the new stuff and he told me he wouldn't b handing over any money he would buy our child what is needed and when is needed. I don't understand why he has to be so awkward about things. Now his family are getting involved and starting to fill his head with crap saying I am not entitled to anything as we are not married and everything is in his name, also saying I only stayed with him until the house was sorted so I didn't have to do it on my own (which is rubbish as I did most of it on my own or with my family) Thanks 4 reading and all your help.

talaniman · Jul 3, 2009, 05:28 AM

If you were married I would say get a lawyer, but since your not you still get child support and he gets visitation rights. As for the property, you may have some legal rights but so does he, and that's a court matter if you two can't settle your differences. Break ups like divorces can get emotional, and messy, but your family would be a great support through this. The possessions are just stuff, and over time can be replaced. The main thing is to get out of each others lives, and begin the healing, and that may be worth more than stuff, old or new.