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    Jun 13, 2009, 01:24 AM
    Break up
    He broke up with me after I complained about his inattentiveness. He is going through a custody battle, was his explanation and he subsequently said we need to breakup bcoz he cannot cope with the custordy drama and give me the love I deserve. He isn't sleeping, havng migraines and withdrawn. I love him and I want him in my life. What do I do?
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    Jun 13, 2009, 01:27 AM

    My wife said I need to be more affectionate,so I went and got a girlfriend.<that is a lame joke but it kind of applies be careful what you ask for he has a lot on his plate right now and needs support not nagging
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    Jun 13, 2009, 01:35 AM
    I agree with zippit. You're making this about you and he's the one that needs the love and attention.

    Have you no compassion? Can't you even imagine what it's like to go through a custody battle?

    He deserves a break at the moment - please don't be offended, but you don't deserve his love if you're this insensitive.
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    Jun 13, 2009, 03:07 AM
    If I wasn't crying I would laugh. The question is how do I support him as I don't feel we are breaking bcoz there is something with our relationship but he feels that he needs to be alone to deal with custordy, which he hid from me until I started nagging as zippit puts it. The last thing I need is judgement, what I need to know is do I leave him alone or do I insist in us remaining a couple as we still love each other and help him through this? If we remain so, how do I help?
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    Jun 13, 2009, 07:03 AM

    That's not what you asked, and not what you wrote.

    He has left you so he can deal with his business. You leave him alone. Had he wanted to include you, he would have told you upfront what he was going through, but he didn't.

    I also suspect that he may think having a girlfriend will hurt his custody case, that's why you leave him alone, as this happens in messy divorces.

    Sorry its hard to accept, but you keep your distance. It may change later, but don't wait around for that to happen.
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