I haven't had too much experience with families that were using and cruel (probably sociopaths). I did have a friend when I was a young teenager who's family was almost close to comparable, but her older brother is now serving time in prison (for life thank God!) for kidnapping and brutally murdering a child. She is didn't fair too much better, but at least she never killed anyone. They still didn't act as horrible as my boyfriend's family.

I am a little scared, now.

I could tell you a big long story of the sick things I have seen, but figured I could sum it up, quicker.

BF's mom is a sociopath, as is his younger brother, and nephew. His sister acts like a classic narcissus. I had no clue before getting involved with these people, and now running away without being able to move for 3 more months doesn't look like it will work so well. I'm trying to keep it cool until my lease is up, at least for the safety of my kids! I have become the target for his mother, and his brother does what his mom says. His sister just seems to get off on hurting everyone to make herself appear better than the world, so she plays along, too. His dad couldn't take the mother, and ran away a long time ago. My boyfriend is just someone them seem to keep down and abuse mentally. It's really sad.

Here is just one of many sick stories that my boyfriend has told me. I heard this one last week, and it made me sick...

Mom likes to say cruel insults to put people down, but she does it in such a sweet and innocent way. Her smile at the time only adds to the twisted charm. She has done this to me several times, and it always makes my blood boil. I just smile back and keep my mouth shut. Then I cuss a lot when I leave to myself. Lol.
So, boyfriend, his mom, and brother went to sister's house to drink beer. Their only pastime. Sister is especially sensitive to mom, because mom only loved (if you call it love) her younger son, and was especially cruel to her and my boyfriend growing up. Mom started saying her usual hateful things to sister, and sister's husband had enough of it. He told her to shut up, get out of his house, and not to come back.
Now, my boyfriend is a big man (6'2", 200lbs muscle), but he is scared of his younger brother. Brother is a murderer, and very violent. My bf is also afraid of the woman I secretly call mommy dearest. So, he has to go along with them, in his own mind.
Mommy dearest did not like what sister's husband said, and told her sons to do something about it. They beat husband senseless with billy clubs, as sister screamed and cried. All the while, mommy dearest jumped up and down with joy screaming, "kill him! Kill him!"
They didn't kill him, but mom laid such a head trip on the daughter the next day that she got her husband to call up and say he was sorry!!!!

Now, that her daughter is alone, she successfully got rid of youngest son's mother of his daughter. (He had to spend every night with mama, and "she could just leave if she didn't understand that" Ewwww! He is 38 or 39 & lives with mama!)She convinced my boyfriend (42 yo) to move back in with her (we were living together), because IDK he said something like he was worried about her but wouldn't tell me more. So, now she just has to get rid of me, and she has been at me full force. I am scared she will get her younger son to hurt me, and the only one that could really keep him at bay is my boyfriend.

What a MESS! It is $3000. To get out of my lease or I would have already done it. Kind of stuck here until April, and only been seeing boyfriend once a week. He wants to be with crazy people like this, so be it. I don't and I will not subject my kids to this either. I don't want to be with him anymore. My respect for him is gone after seeing how he bows down to them, and how he lets them treat me and my children. I love him, but I cannot change or control him. I have two people in my life that are much more important!
Any suggests on how to get out quietly, sooner, without getting killed?

Why don't you break up with the boyfriend and in April leave?

Is his name on the lease?

How long have you been with him?

I knew a family that was very similair. But in this family the father and the brothers ruled the roost. Very strange!!