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    ladylazo Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 30, 2009, 02:09 PM
    My boyfriends daughter will be 21 in March of 2010, she lives with us, doesn't work,
    My boyfriends daughter lives with us, doesn't work, doesn't go to school. Has been in and out of jail 8 times in the past 2 yrs. We try to help her, but she won't follow the house rules. I am afraid she will be the ruin of us all. What can we do?
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    Dec 30, 2009, 02:33 PM

    What does your boyfriend have to say about her behaviour?
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    Dec 30, 2009, 11:49 PM

    Until your boyfriend is able to take care of business with his adult daughter, I would personally move out.

    She will most likely ruin your relationship, and if you marry your boyfriend, you will face even more problems.

    The only person who is benefiting from this situation, is her. That your boyfriend is unable, or unwilling to expect her to behave as an adult, says much about him as well.

    You are not in a position, as his girlfriend, to enforce any rules, or demand any changes. So you are left with the situation as it is.

    It will be a difficult go for you in my opinion, whether you stay or not.
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    Dec 31, 2009, 12:08 AM

    I'd evict her, but that's just me. ;)
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