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    hannahmd Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 12, 2011, 01:16 PM
    My Boyfriend Won't have sex with me, or let me touch him or him touch me.. why?
    Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now, sex and intimacy was great. Its now been 6 months since we have had sex and he won't let me touch him, if I try and touch his downstairs he shouts at me and tells me to get off, if I even look at it whilst he is in his boxers he goes mad.

    When he is texting me, he is fine, all lovey dovey, but when I am with him.. He is a totally different person! I went through his phone to find pictures of him with girls from when we wasn't together for about a month, this was a long time ago and he has never deleted them. I spotted him texting a girl once, when I came to look through his phone that night, he had deleted all his texts and e-mails.

    I picked him up from a works do the other night and he was texting a girl he works with, essays. Am I being stupid and na´ve thinking it could be nothing? Am I holding on to what we used to have?
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    LuckyChucky13 Posts: 41, Reputation: 13
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    Dec 12, 2011, 04:57 PM

    You already know the answer to your question, but I believe you're in denial. He's your boyfriend and you guys are still dating... what's he doing texting other girls?
    Also, why the need to erase all texts and e-mails if they're harmless and innocent?

    Does it sound weird to you as it does to me that he hasn't touched you in 6 months??? Actions speak louder than words sweetie, and in this case, his actions are screaming right at you. Sit his a** down and tell him to man-up and spill the beans. Where does he see this relationship going (if you still want to call it a relationship, because it sounds too one-sided) and where are you in his plans?

    Whatever answers he gives you, if they are to your satisfaction, he needs to back them up with actions.
    The problem with a lot of relationships is that someone usually takes the other for granted and thinks they'll keep eating their s**t until the person stands up for themselves and decides enough is enough. You should have done that a long time ago. Tell him you need answers and you need them now. If he doesn't, tell him where the door is, or better yet, give him a map so he doesn't lose himself on the way out.

    Good luck.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,186, Reputation: 10852

    Dec 12, 2011, 05:48 PM
    I like you, would be suspicious, and REALLY angry. I would insists on answers, or dump him immediately if he cannot satisfy your questions.

    Did I say immediately, and no games or excuses? You deserve an explanation, so get one, and it better be good, NO, GREAT!!
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    odinn7 Posts: 7,691, Reputation: 1547
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    Dec 12, 2011, 05:54 PM
    Really... something is going on here. There is no need for you to put up with this garbage from him. Get some answers or tell him to take off. Actually, even after the answers, you may be better off without him anyway.
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    rikku3464 Posts: 44, Reputation: 2
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    Dec 19, 2011, 07:27 AM
    I can't say I'm right on your situation, but on my experience and others I have talked too, he might be cheating, but I don't want to be wrong I don't want you to be mad at my pour advice, but if he is hiding and deleting emails and messages then you need to get to the bottom of things, if he has no interest like you have said then he might be... I don't know if I was you, id be very careful, I would try and find out what's going on or just dump him. I mean honestly its better to be single then to be with someone like him. I don't know just be careful OK?

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