Hello, My boyfriend(22) and I(21) have been together for 1 yr and 6 months. He recently told me that he wants space. He told me that he loves and doesn't want to break up with me, but he wants his space. I truly in love with my boyfriend. We have tried the whole space thing before twice, and we always end up spending time together.because we both want it. Now this past Monday when he told me that he wanted his space, he also told me that he has mixed feeling (that scared me) I asked him. "mixed feelings, as in just friends or more than friends" he said more than friends, pretty clear. But he also told me that whenever I text him and call him, that recently he started feeling like he didn't want to talk to me. (that just hurt me and I started crying) He told me that he want time for himself, he wants to go out with his friends at times. He tell me to go out with my friends as well but the truth is, since High school I lost touch with them. ( I have no friends) and well he is the only one that I hang out with. And it hurt me to know that he wants less of me, because that is what space is.

I guess the reason why he wants space too is because is has been stressed out with bills and work, and well there are times when we don't have sex for weeks. (2 or 3 tops) but he says that the less he has sex, the better he is at concentrating on his job and doing other things like playing sports. I get mad because I want it more than he does, but I can learn to live with it. Bottom line, he is stressed about paying his bills and not having enough money. I try to be understanding about it. And I try to help him. But he doesn't want my help. I tell him that ill lend him money and he won't take it. At times it looks like he doesn't even see how hard I try.

Now the space thing is something hard for me, because we or at least I am so used to texting him and calling him multiple times during the day and then out of the nowhere just stopping, and waiting for his call its hard for me. He calls me once a day and texts a bit. I want to be an understanding girlfriend and I want to be there for him. And I don't want to be selfish, but I do not know why it is that I need crave his attention so much. I mean even when we speak on the phone for a couple of minutes its not enough, I still feel lonely. I don't want to tell him because I want him to really get his space. Like I do so much for him as well, I cook for him at times and I even take care of him when he is sick, I don't know what I would do with out him, I just love him so much. He does as well. But at the end of a long hard day I just want to feel assurance that he always going to be there, I want him to see that I'm trying, I want him to tell me that he loves me,and actually meaning it with out me saying it first. I want him to hug me and hold me tight so we can feel eachothers love. I want to kiss him passionatly.. He stopped kissing me a lot, about a year ago. Like last September. But its OK I see past it. Maybe if he gave me all that, maybe just maybe I won't crave his attention so much. He is always on my mind. I know that at the end of the day he probably just wants to sleep, but I just want to control myself from focusing so much on him. I try doing other things like running at the park but he lives near the park, and I end up calling him telling him I'm near by. ( but I don't stop by)

I want to give him his space without me sufficating him, I don't want to call him so much or text him or see him a lot. For this past week I think I have done all right because I have only texted him when he texts me or calls me first, until today. I blew up his phone. :(

We came to an agreement that I will only see hiim 1 or 2 times a week, and that I will wait for his call or text. But since he plays softball with my cousin she wants me to be at all the games and practices, and that means that I will be seeing him about 3 times a week. But not alone, and when I see him I mean I want to have alone time with him. If were going to only see each other 2 times a week it should be worth it right! So in other words I have not had any alone time with him for about 3 weeknds. And this up coming weekend I told him that I wanted to see him and just spend quality time together, I told him that I could cook him something and we can spend time at his house and it just seemed like he didn't want that. And it got me sad.

Please help me, ill take all the advice I can get because I want to make this work, I want to be there for his time of need. Because he is stressed out,
Thank you :)