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    My boyfriend wants to do a 3-some?

    Asked May 27, 2007, 12:32 PM 89 Answers
    Hi, I'm 28 years old and my boyfriend of six months wants me to actively participate in a three some with a large man who is a wrestler. I am a 5'4" petite, 112 pounds, my boyfriend is 6'0" and 195 pounds, while the third party man is 6'7" and 340 pounds. I am afraid the third man will really be too big? He also really wants me to go down on him (the wrestler)! My boyfriend then is particularly interested in doing a double penetration. What should I do?

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    #61

    Jun 3, 2007, 07:34 PM
    Three Words... Don't Do It.
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    #62

    Jun 3, 2007, 08:43 PM
    Two words... Already did.
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    Jun 3, 2007, 08:45 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman
    Don't do anything you don't want to just to please someone else. Tell him to take his freaky deaky arse somewhere else.

    Little late, but I believe that would be freaky deaky sex land, would be where he'd take said arse...
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    Jun 13, 2007, 11:01 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck
    Well him that perhaps he should go down on him first and let him do him first if he wants a threesome so bad.

    My only question I guess is why you are even asking, dump the jerk and find a boyfriend that will really love and respect you.
    heck yes fr_chuck! Awsome couldn't say it ne better
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    Jun 13, 2007, 06:29 PM
    Listen I think its about time you get another girl over and let your boyfriend go with it with her I want to here how that story goes??
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    Aug 1, 2007, 10:25 PM
    "binx44 disagrees: that doesnt mean hes GAY. just because he wanted a threesome with another guy in the mix most of the time never means hes gay. 2 men and a girl can get together but the men can never touch eachother or even if they do it doesnt make'm gay *goodness*"

    Notice how bonx capitalizes the letters G-A-Y. She wants to make sure that those letters stick out for some reason. She also has not a clue, as she claims that a guy that wants to view another guy sexually in the same room naked is not gay. Ahh okay. She even says that most of the time that means he's not gay. Enlightling news coming out of the rainbow capital. Well sorry to let you in on what happens in the real world but MOST (notice how I capitalize for emphisis) of the time that does mean he's gay, and he uses the girl as a cover to be around his naked guys. In fact, your probably missed this in the original post because it was in the second line, but the supposed boyfriend actually had a type of guy he wanted to see naked. Now I know you missed this because it was in the last line of the original post but this guy also wanted to do double penetration. Now speaking as a straight male, and throwing all PC BS out the window, there is no way a straight guy wants his johnson anywhere near another guys. I don't like the doctor touching it but I certainly wouldn't sit there and watch him take off his pants so we could stick them together to nail Christine at the same time.

    Maybe your many gay partners are telling you otherwise but they are lying. Greatness.
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    Aug 2, 2007, 05:25 AM
    My doctor is a female,HEHEHE!
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    Aug 2, 2007, 05:32 AM
    I have to agree with Chuff on this. Straight men (MOST) would not want there wanker anywhere near another guys especially in a sexual manner. However, I do know straight men who are secure enough to walk around naked and not worry about who is watching (man, woman, straight, gay).
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    Aug 2, 2007, 06:06 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Tuscany
    I have to agree with Chuff on this. Straight men (MOST) would not want there wanker anywhere near another guys especially in a sexual manner. However, I do know straight men who are secure enough to walk around naked and not worry about who is watching (man, woman, straight, gay).
    I have to agree with Tuscany's agreement. I just wanted to point out though that walkng around naked is much different then a sexual situation. I'm sure gay dudes have checked out men out in a locker room including me, but not one has ever nor would they ever come up to me and grab my johnson and say "Hey let's go nail Christine together." Yeah... that would just not work. It wouldn't work in a locker room or in a bedroom unless something else is going on.
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    Aug 2, 2007, 08:21 AM
    To play the devil's advocate here, I don't think that every guy in male-male-female threesome porn is gay. And I don't think you're necessarily gay if you're a guy who gets off on male-male-female threesome porn. Also, when a guy watches male-female one-on-one porn, he's watching a guy naked in a sexual situation. That doesn't make him gay. I think it depends on the focus of the threesome. If the focus for both guys is the girl, that's less "gay." If the focus for both guys is split equally between the girl and the other guy, then, yes, I'd have to agree that the guy does have gay fantasies.
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    Aug 2, 2007, 09:28 AM
    For the women reading this post, evan though it is a comedy entry. I began seeing a girl, who seemed great. However it turned out during discussions that she had had a threesome with her ex boyfriend and a friend of his that she didn't know.

    You can well imagine my response ! IMO this guy used her for self gratification and did not love her, funny how they were no longer together, it certainly brought them closer.

    My point is, this act ended not one but two relationships for this girl ! It is now well and truly a skeleton in her closet. Any man who loves her will be disgusted by the fact that she had group sex with a man she did not know (her ex's friend). Unless he is a swinger.

    I now walk past this girl in the street and I am disgusted and ashamed that I once cared for her! Is that really the relationships women seek ?
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    Aug 2, 2007, 09:31 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by 4answers
    Is that really the relationships women seek ?
    I believe some women out there are really sexually adventurers but I think the rest of us would not get involved in a threesome. I think a lot of girls and guys get pressured into them by their partners. Like you said they do it to please their partners and ultimately it ends relationships.
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    Aug 2, 2007, 09:56 AM
    Hmm... well, he might not be gay. Although he might be trying to discover his sexuality without cheating on you or making himself out to be gay incase he is not.
    OR he might think that because he let you fool around with some other guy that he should be aloud to fool around with some other girl on his watch.
    Sounds like a man thing to do.:p
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    Aug 2, 2007, 10:15 AM


    You know...

    I'd just like to point out that your REASONS for having a threesome have to be sound (no pressure from one partner or the other, or from the 3rd party), you have to set RULES ahead of time (again, all THREE people must be involved in the creation of the rules) and those rules must be ENFORCED.

    If it is the fantasy of everyone involved, the lines are clear, all the people involved are into it... what the heck does it matter what people do in bed?

    If it makes someone a whore to enjoy a sexual fantasy, then I think there are a lot more whores out there than I previously realized!

    Just remember... just because YOU wouldn't do it, or wouldn't enjoy it, doesn't mean that someone ELSE out there shouldn't. As long as it's not hurting or coercing someone, then there shouldn't be a problem.
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    Aug 2, 2007, 10:36 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Synnen
    You know...


    Just remember....just because YOU wouldn't do it, or wouldn't enjoy it, doesn't mean that someone ELSE out there shouldn't. As long as it's not hurting or coercing someone, then there shouldn't be a problem.

    Forgive me for being conraversial and please believe I am not judgemental.

    But a guy sleeps with loads of women, he is viewed as a stud by men.. However women, strange creatures that you are look at this guy and see all these women and think, well he must have something about him or those girls would not want him! So you find him more atractive... Alph Male. (The guy who never has a girl is not atractive to you).

    But If a girl sleeps with loads of guys she is veiwed as a slut by guys.. because funnily enough a guy wants a girl to want him sexually.. Call it male ego, if you will. He does not want to be with a girl who every other guy has had ! Where is the satisfaction and closeness of being with someone who wants you but no another, when every other has had her.. kind of makes it not special. Now women on the other hand, also view this girl with distane ! Call her ! Disaprove of her !

    So the point being in this eqality society that does not and will never exist, because it is against our human nature, women who sleep around or do things like threesome are viewed in a negative way.

    I am not saying its right, it JUST IS and will not change. It will only change when women view men who sleep around the same way as they view women who do it and the same for men.

    So girls, yes it's a fantacy... But its not rocket science to know there is after effects.
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    Aug 2, 2007, 10:43 AM


    There are after effects only if you allow there to be.

    Frankly, any guy that was turned off by me being assertive enough to act out my fantasy is too stupid for me to date, anyway. (in MY opinion, which is the one that counts when I'm choosing who to date, not that it matters since I'm married, but you get the point).

    Double standard or not, if someone were to judge me based on my sexual history, well... their loss.
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    Aug 2, 2007, 01:13 PM
    I would probably break up with my boyfriend, your boyfriend sounds like he has issues.
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    Aug 2, 2007, 03:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by 4answers
    I now walk past this girl in the street and I am disgusted and ashamed that I once cared for her! Is that really the relationships women seek ?
    I would never consider something like this - it's not my thing but what you have said is really judgemental. She is probably better off with out you and your disgust.


    Quote Originally Posted by 4answers
    I am not saying its right, it JUST IS and will not change. It will only change when women view men who sleep around the same way as they view women who do it and the same for men.
    It won't change because of attitudes like yours- That can't see past themselves or just like judging others. No one is perfect and we ALL make mistakes. So she tried something new. SO WHAT!
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    Aug 3, 2007, 02:02 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by NowWhat
    I would never consider something like this - it's not my thing but what you have said is really judgemental. She is probably better off with out you and your disgust.

    Like I said I am not judgemental, But it is the way people in general think, you only need to look at the replies to the initial post to see that.


    It won't change because of attitudes like yours- That can't see past themselves or just like judging others. No one is perfect and we ALL make mistakes. So she tried something new. SO WHAT!!
    I have not stated my attitude but I have stated attitudes in general ! Men and Women view casual sex or group sex in different ways, because of that fact there can be no equlity on this issue. Its not right, but it is so. Unfortuntly women do come of worse in this, now that's not my fault or my issue, before anyone has a go at me.

    The point I was making is that because of this inequality, women must be aware that there will be negative after effects of there sexual actions, It will as it did with the girl I mentioned, destroy relationships. (Caused by lie's over this more than the acts btw).
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    Aug 3, 2007, 06:14 AM


    Just would like to say that I know a girl who has been with her husband for almost 12 years.

    They've had 3 threesomes that I know of.

    They're still happily together, and friends with the people they asked to join them in bed.

    What causes problems is when people aren't completely into it, make rules, and enforce the rules.

    Plus... the attitude that you're a whore for enjoying a sexual fantasy. That makes for problems too.
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