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    natalie111 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 22, 2012, 04:42 PM
    My boyfriend is talking to an ex fling on email and I caught him.. but??
    Today I went through my boyfriends email, and I know.its because on some level I truly don't trust hi.. so as I was snooping I came across a conversation with an ex of his. And he was saying that he is just with me because he has no where else to go and that I'm a horrible girlfriend and even went to say we never have sex even though we have sex often.. when I confronted him about it he said. Someone must have hacked my account and written all of it.. but some.of the things he has said only he and I know about.. I know he lying but just won't admit it.. I tried to end it but he.is so good with words that I said we would discuss it more when I had calmed down.. I have 3 children with my ex and my current boyfriend helpa out everyday he goes above and beyond to make us happy and feel loved.. I'm so confused I don't know what to do...
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    Nov 22, 2012, 07:20 PM
    Break up with him! He's wearing a mask by acting one way around you "being good with words" and all then talking bad about you to his EX. Notice that its his EX. Its clear as day how he feels for you, as you just discovered through his email and also that he's a liar. This guy is going to end up really hurting you if you stay with him.
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    Nov 22, 2012, 11:52 PM
    He's lying to this other girl and about you to get in her pants, I'm sorry to say. The old "my girlfriend is horrible and she never has sex with me" lie. Dump him.
    This isn't going to stop.

    (and you girls who are on the receiving end of that lie --- stay clear of a guy who isn't breaking up with his girlfriend but telling you how "awful" she is so he can have sex with you) these guys are boys - not real men.
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    Nov 23, 2012, 12:30 AM
    You can talk to him directly to tell him your feeling and know his thoughts.
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    Nov 23, 2012, 06:48 AM
    I feel like an idiot . He came over last night to discuss since I was calmer and just asked him to admit he did it. And to stop lying and saying someone hacked his account.. but he refuses . So I will be ending it today.. thank you for your quick replies.. and uve said what I was thinking but wasn't sure what to do about it.. I appreciate it.. but I know when I try to end it he will use a guilt trip telling me he has no where else to go because he does not talk to his family or his friends.. and that's how he always gets me to change my mind. Because I feel as if I'm throwing him out to live on the streets..
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    Nov 23, 2012, 07:07 PM
    Good luck -- stay strong and seriously - you don't need to take responsibility for him "living on the streets" Don't allow him to throw a pity-party for himself for the purpose of manipulating you. Very likely he wants to guilt trip you because he GETS something out of being with you (sounds like a place to stay). You deserve better than that. Forgive him and move on without him.
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