Hey all

So I'm good with dogs but not so much about them sleeping in the same bed and this what's happening at the moment.
My boyfriends dog is literally controlling everything he has to be in bed with us or he sulks and on top of it he has to be in between us and it gets to the point where I'm almost falling off the bed with no blanket but the dog and him have everything.

Another thing I brought up with him that bothers me is I keep getting awful skin because of his dog, every time I stay over and his dog sleeps with us the next day my skin has a rash on it especially my face. My boyfriend just says it's probably diet related... it's not I have the same diet I've had for years and I've never had issues.

The other thing is we can't do too much because we need to be back home within an hour because that means we are leaving the dog for too long... it's very frustrating the dog has to be everywhere with us even in the bathroom, and we can't have a normal life because the dog controls it. Like I said I don't hate dogs they are my preferred pet but his dog there's something not right all dogs I've had in the past or friend have had are amazing, independent are friendly and loving but know they shouldn't sleep in its masters bed. I don't care if the dog sleeps at the foot of the bed he needs to be on the ground though, but my partner doesn't get it.

I'm always scratching myself and feels like I have fleas it's revolting even though he cleans his dog etc. has anyone else had an issue like this how'd you go about it? Because talking about it is obviously not working.

Lots of people let their dogs sleep with them... cats too.

Incidentally... you don't get the moral right to demand anything until that wedding ring is on the finger... Until then... he's a single guy and the master of his own destiny, as are you of yours.

Despite your claims of being "good with dogs", you certainly don't sound at all like a dog person.

You can ignore cats like that....heaven knows they do their best to ignore us much of the time...dogs are not like cats...separation anxiety is a very real thing with dogs.

I hate to tell you this but the boyfriend is the one who will have to train the dog to sleep elsewhere. In the dog's eyes he (your boyfriend) is the master and you are another minion like he (the dog) is. If the dog and the man have been together awhile the training may not be very successful. You've heard the one about old dogs and new tricks.

The question for you is whether the boyfriend is worth the long and anxiety producing struggle that the training will be. The anxiety may be causing your rash, as well.

If you don't like sleeping with his dog, then don't, especially if it causes you problems. You want longer dates then he gets a dog sitter or you don't have those types of dates. I see your problem as he built his life around his dog, and you are not the priority here, so why do you make him the priority, being as you are NOT happy with this arrangement.

How long have you been dealing with this relationship and where is it going? Really doesn't matter much since talking doesn't change things, and only YOUR actions can change how you approach this relationship. Unfortunately until you have had enough there will be no changes, and its unlikely he will accept anyone who doesn't accept him, and his dog for what they are.

Let me know when you realize that this is but a preview of how life with this fellow will be. I suppose you could sleep on the couch, or take the dog with you on dates, but that will get old soon enough if not already, so it seems you have a hard choice to make about what you are willing to put up with for this love.

Back away and take a really hard look at what this relationship is really all about and decide if it's worth it or not. At least get your rashes all cleared up, and stop that scratching. That should be YOUR priority, along with YOUR health, and happiness.

If you can't love them BOTH, LEAVE... they are a PACKAGE deal.

I looked back for a minute or two to read other complaints about this guy, as far back as your complaints about his bipolar sister.
It really doesn't seem like you are ever going to be content with this man, never mind happy.
Dogs rule.
I went camping once with a friend, and took my dog... she was furious the whole time. Said I gave the dog too much attention. Maybe I did. That was 40 years ago. I just buried my most recent dog, and while she was old and needy, I wouldn't leave the house except for quick trips to the store. I did the same thing when I lived with my dad before he died.

It seems that you think that you have more rights in a relationship than you do.
There are very few rights. #1 is to be free of physical abuse.
Time to break up. Don't hang on just because you have been with him for years and want to get married.

Sorry you are the one, who is letting the dog sleep with you. You have the option to tell boyfriend if dog sleeps in the bed, you won't. Or he and the dog can sleep in another bed or on the couch

OP's b/f is way off base. There is an old saying that you are not doing your dog (or yourself) any favours by not teaching your dog proper behavior. I agree with Chuck though, that OP should make the distinction of saying well, the dog sleeps somewhere else or I am out of here. The relationship will then be tested, and if the b/f cant make this happen, then the relationship has to go. No other way.

My dog lives around my work schedule. She gets walked at 6am no matter what the weather is like; I have invisible fencing and a huge property, so she is not restrained, and VERY WELL HOUSE TRAINED. I can leave her for up to five hours. Any longer my ex comes and gets her. She sleeps with me, on the bottom of the bed. If I happen to have a bed partner, then she is not on the bed. All is simple.

I don't agree on going back on previous posts. It clouds the issues of the present one.