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yourcute21 · May 2, 2008, 09:29 PM

After a month of going out, my boyfriend said he was really busy with school, baseball, and friends and didn't have time for a girlfriend anymore. He said he just wants to take a break and eventually get back together when he has more time. But he doesn't really make an effort to talk to me unless I talk to him first. I don't know if this is because he's too busy to call me. I really want to have a friendship with him and eventually turn it into a relationship. How do I do that?

My boyfriend recently broke up with me. I'm still willing to give him a second chance, but how can I get him to miss me?

My boyfriend told me he wanted to take a break because he's really busy. Is it possible to make him miss me if I stop talking to him? Or will that make him forget about me? He told me that he still likes me and we could possibly get back together when he has more time.

Allheart · May 2, 2008, 09:37 PM

Hi yourcute,

If it is possible to have any kind of relationship with this guy, give him space. Don't call, don't email, do nothing. Fill that time up by doing something for yourself.

I know in your heart you want a relationship with this guy, but listen with your ears and not your heart. He is telling you, not now. I know that is not what you want to hear and hurts, but if you keep trying to contact him, you will only push him away further.

There are times in a relationship these things do happen. And all of us tend to act emotionally, which is so understandable, but then we only make it harder on ourselves.

It's hard to comprehend and hurtful, when someone we want to spend time with us, has filled their day with other things and doesn't want the same.

Fill your day, with things just for you. Do that one thing you always wanted to do... and go and do it.

This is your time, take it and make the best of it.

I hope you are not hurting too much over this, you will see, with time and given the space he requested, and doing good healthy things for yourself, you will feel better.

I wish you the very best.

Pedro Depacas · May 2, 2008, 09:59 PM

From a guys point we don't want to be pursued it is just not the nature of the game so I agree with ALLheart lay low let him come to you because either he needs room, or sadly he may just not be interested. How long were you going out prior to? Were you friends first? That would tell a little more of how you should react. However, since I don't know that heck yeah girl just disappear for a bit, and get out too. See how much he misses you, it sounds conniving but based on what he's doing go have some fun you've got room too!

JBeaucaire · May 2, 2008, 10:59 PM

It's not a good dating technique to listen to what someone tells you and then secretly plan to undermine what they told you was their truth. This boy has been honest with you about his level of interest in you and how it doesn't rate the amount of time required for a serious girlfriend. That was incredibly honest, and it sounds like he handled it well, too.

So, now you're looking to make his wishes irrelevant with plans of your own? Why not just meet his honesty with honesty of your own. Tell him you're still interested but respect the boundaries he's set in place.

Meanwhile, remember you can like a lot of guys, even fall in love again at the drop of a hat, but only if you're out there looking at hats!

This hat (him) is on the shelf for now, so leave it be. Maybe it will come available again, just like he said. But don't waste time meanwhile. Every day is a gift, so live it up.