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    girl1987 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 11, 2008, 05:38 PM
    Bipolar and character gap
    I met a guy online and we like each other a lot and we're supposed to meet soon. He's 24 and I'm 21.
    He told me he has bipolar disorder and I feel it would be so unfair if I leave him for this reason. He also told me that psychiatrists told him steps to follow so he can adjust when he experiences days of depression. He finds it hard to take those steps but he keeps on trying.
    I read some about it on Wikipedia. In case that we meet and want to go on in our relationship, I wonder whether it would be wise or not to marry him. Will we be able to have a normal life? I also read that it's a genetic disorder, which scares me because I will like to have children of my own and I want them to be normal!
    I have one more question. He's the type of person who would let his heart lead most of the time, though he's very mature and thinks deeply. But I let my mind lead most of the time. Will this be a big deal in our relationship?
    I need advice. Please help.
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    Aug 11, 2008, 05:47 PM
    Slow down! You have not even met him and thinking about marriage and kids with this guy. Who knows what could happen but you can't plan out your future just yet. Relax a little and be cautious when meeting someone online.
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    Aug 11, 2008, 05:51 PM
    I agree with liz you haven't even met him yet and you are concerned about marriage
    You aren't even going together yet and you are worried about breaking up.

    It is good to be concerned about his bi-polar but take it one day at a time and take it very slow and cautious because many bi-polar people are very hard to live with. Don't even talk or think more than meeting and going out until you are sure you can deal with all his moods and all his ups and downs.
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    Aug 11, 2008, 06:01 PM
    Thanks a lot for you both.
    Nohelp4u, what you say makes sense.
    Just one thing I want to make clear, I'm not saying I'm going to marry him tomorrow! I can't decide this unless I know him very well. But I just say that if it would be unwise to marry him, then why even go on? We can just end it up now which will be better for us both than meeting then breaking up.
    Thanks again
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    Aug 11, 2008, 06:05 PM
    You meet him first then, slow down, read more about bipolar so you'll be somewhat prepared.

    Meet him then, slow down, read more about bipolar so you'll be somewhat prepared.

    Meet him then, slow down, read more about bipolar so you'll be somewhat prepared.

    Meet him then, slow down, read more about bipolar so you'll be somewhat prepared.

    Capische?
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    Aug 11, 2008, 06:36 PM
    We understand you don't mean meet him tomorrow but you are thinking too far ahead for somebody that you might not even be interested once you do meet him.

    Why meet him if it would be unwise to marry him?
    Because that is what getting to know people is all about a learning experience and seeing how you do get along with others. So all we are saying is don't put the cart before the horse. Who knows even if you find he isn't dating material or right for marriage you still could end up with a valued friend.
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    Aug 12, 2008, 07:42 AM
    Thanks, ylaira
    Nohelp4u, that makes sense. Thanks a lot
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