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    nicnac Posts: 5, Reputation: 2
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    Jan 25, 2008, 09:25 PM
    Will I ever adapt to life with my boyfriend's child?
    I love my man, we've been together for just over 2 yrs. He is divorced (5yrs) and has a 7yr old son who he has joint custody of. I would like to move forward in this relationship but am scared to death. When I spend the whole weekend with he and his son I find myself running to the quiet of my own home at the end of the weekend. The next step would be living together, would it be okay because I'd have my own space and things or will I feel trapped and suffocated, constantly bothered by the noise?
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    Jan 26, 2008, 12:03 PM
    Don't take that next step, until you can deal with the situation. Not fair to any of you. When my own grandkids leave, I am exhausted, and need a break, so nothing weird at all about seeking solace by yourself, to recharge yourself.
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    Jan 26, 2008, 12:20 PM
    When you get with someone that has a child, you are taking an entire package not just him. This is something you should have considered long before 2 years. If you can not fill in as a step mom when you are there, and feel like you can handle it. You need to move on, and allow him to find someone that wll care for him and his child.
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    Jan 26, 2008, 12:25 PM
    I agree with the previous posts. If you can't wait to get back to your house, then moving in is probably a bad idea. It would be worse for everyone if you moved in and then moved out because you didn't like it. By then, his kid would have gotten used to having you around, that could be hard for him if you leave, not to mention it might destroy your relationship. I would say to look for a single guy so that you will be able to spend more time alone with him.

    Hope this helps!
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