I had many friends over the years, but not a lot of close ones. After my "BFF" stopped talking to me over a year ago, I found myself a little lost, between my few friends, who just weren't "best friend material." Then I met that girl at work and we quickly became close, spending a lot of time together, we helped each other through hard times, shared secrets and laughs. I quit my job recently, my boyfriend still works at the same place.

My friend and I kept seeing each other every other day. Everything was fine until the manager at work came to my boyfriend to tell him the things I told my friend in private a few weeks ago, which makes me feel so betrayed I don't even know what to do. I told her all my secrets, about myself, my family or my boyfriend, even things I didn't tell anyone else before. It is the high school nightmare, except I left high school a long, long time ago.

A part of me wants to confront her now and say "I know what you did and I'll tell yours if you tell more" - which, I have to admit, sounds childish.

My boyfriend says I should just be patient and careful about what I share with her from now on, but again, he doesn't know I shared pretty much everything already.

I don't know what to do, should I just call her and tell her I am aware of what she did and it hurts, or should I wait and keep quiet? Worst part is, our manager loves gossip - so I think she did it to be closer to her, just as a conversation topic - what she knows could affect my boyfriend's career and my relationship with him.

Any advice is welcomed because I am going crazy right now. Thank you.

I think you are putting way too much drama in it.

Rule one, if you don't want it told, don't tell anyone.

Rule two, if it is not true, don't tell anyone.

If it could affect your job or boyfriends job, you never tell anyone.

If you are honest with boyfriend it should not have any effect with that. If you told someone something that could affect the relationship with boyfriend, you need to tell boyfriend first.

You tell friend you are hurt because of this. So you now know she can not keep a secret.

Just me, I would certainly let this so called friend have a piece of my mind and that would be the end of that friendship.

Your other option is to end the friendship and not go off on this betrayal, but again, JUST ME, they would have to know first hand face to face that I was not happy with this betrayal.

But that's what happens when you find out your friend is a blabbermouth. Or was manipulated and pumped for information by a nosy manager.

But you better let the boyfriend know all the facts, so he won't have to look stupid later.

Well, tal, as usual... Your advice worked just fine for me. I called her this morning and in a calm way I told her that "I knew she was a blabbermouth" (yes, I did use the word) she said "I know" - I told her I don't want to hear anything like that ever again. She apologized, didn't say much, just hung up. Probably doesn't know the friendship is over for me, but she knows I'm mad at her.
I feel like Wonder Woman (without the outfit, thank god) and everything is fine. Especially the "lesson learned after 30" part. Thank you both ;)