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    Asked Nov 7, 2006, 04:05 PM 8 Answers
    :( Before I ask you all this I have to give you some info.I hve known this dude since I was like 10 yrs. His sister my best friends . They are like my second family. One day in December I slept over at her house. It was me, her ,the brother, and our guy friend.well me and my friend went to bed in her room and the guys in the living room. Well during that night I woke up and her brother (whos 15) was sitting in the middle of our room watching me.I went to sleep thinking it was just me dreaming or something because it was so late. But I think like an hour lator I felt someone taking off my pants.( that perv) I woke up but all I saw was the door close.I locked the door to calm down and a few hours later unintintionly fell asleep and it happened again.I ran out and got my guy friend and he calmed me down and promised to look out for him( the brother was "asleep" by that time).so that mournen I told my friend and from then till now I haven't spent the night at her house . And the situation faded away.but last night I did and it happened again I know I should tell me mom but she d freak. This dude is a foot and a half taller with huge biceps. So I am scared. But if I tell my mom I might never be able to go hang with my friend. But then I know I should not because of me but because of the other girls he hangs out with. Please help me I am so scared no one is going to believe me!! He is bible study leader loves god( acts like it at least) everyone loves him. And not even the people I told believe anymore!! Help:confused:

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    Nov 7, 2006, 05:33 PM
    I think the best thing you could do is tell your mom. At this point you need all the people you can get that will be on your side and help you out. You already said that people are starting not to believe you and I believe you should never go back there and sleep. He obviously wants to do something to you and if you sleep over there one more time I fear the worst. It would be in your best interest just to not sleep over there anymore, only have your friend at your house. At this point you need to think only of you, not your friends or people that might not believe you, you need to protect yourself and make sure he can't do that to you. You never know what might happen. I strongly urge you to tell your parents that way they can look after you properly. I know you want to continue to hang out with your friend and what not but not at the price of you getting raped. I strongly urge you to tell your parents and protect yourself, because honestly rape can lead to even more dangerous things and it would be wise to protect yourself as soon as possible. Please get help.
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    Nov 7, 2006, 05:51 PM
    Wow... You need to tell your mom.

    I agree with wizzkid...

    You have to think of yourself. You have to think of your future. This will change everything for ever. If you truly don't want him to do this then you have to do something to stop it. Be smart and be aware. It doesn't matter what your friends think or the what the reprecutions of taking care of yourself might be. You will regret it later if you don't. You will hurt later if you don't.

    As a survivor I can tell you that this is not something you want to have to deal with. This is not something that you want your future husband to have to deal with. This will be something you want left behind, you will not want it to be a part of your life when you have children. There are far too many negetive things that will come from not protecting yourself.

    Take care of YOU!
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    Nov 7, 2006, 06:20 PM
    Dude this could be a situation that you would never forgive yourself if you didn't tell your mom. Never, ever go back there again. That other kid has severe emotional problems and need help yesterday. That being said, protect yourself above all else.
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    Nov 7, 2006, 06:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by koolname
    :I locked the door to calm down and a few hours later unintintionly fell asleep and it happend again.:
    You unlocked the door or he "broke in"?
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    Nov 8, 2006, 03:44 PM
    Did you drink anything there given by the brother? It almost sounds like there was drugs involved. The fact that you were saying you woke up. Fell asleep and the fact that your friend didn't see/ hear anything. It sounds as if someone slipped a drug in your drink. This is an odd thing... if you really feel that something "happened" I wouldn't go back there, just have your friend come to your house. If you want too (this is not for everyone but its something I'd do).. obviously don't do it if you are genuinely fearful of him, and only do it if his parents are there.. but I'd CALMLY ask him if he was in that room on that night. And see how he reacts.. nervous etc.. I was raped at a young age and I wish I had more courage at that time but only do what you can to keep yourself safe
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    Nov 8, 2006, 04:33 PM
    I dated this guy once who had this creepy father, he would always say creepy things under his brethe and somethmes I would hear him unzip his pants, I finally got the never to tell the guy I was dating at the time and he didn't believe me. Siad I was hearing things... So I definitely know what it feels like to feel threatened and have no one believe you. I know you are scared, BUt I hope for your sakes you tell you mom. IF you don't and things do happen, it could come up in court and affect your credibility as to why you didn't tell your mom. I also agree to just let your friend stay at your house.

    Another thing to consider, have you ever had these feelings away from there?
    Sometimes as women we can have realistic dreams about sex that give real feelings?

    BUt if you truly think its happeneing then tell your mom, dad if you got one, and tell a doctor!
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    Nov 8, 2006, 05:25 PM
    Tell your mom!! Tel lyour friend!! 1

    This guy is massicve trouble and has zero boundries. Please be safe!!
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    Dec 14, 2007, 07:27 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by koolname
    :( Before I ask you all this I have to give you some info.I hve known this dude since I was like 10 yrs. His sister my best freinds . they are like my second family. one day in December I slept over at her house. It was me, her ,the brother, and our guy freind.well me and my freind went to bed in her room and the guys in the living room. Well during that nite I woke up and her brother (whos 15) was sitting in the middle of our room watching me.I went to sleep thinking it was just me dreaming or something because it was so late. but I think like an hour lator I felt someone taking off my pants.( that perv) I woke up but all I saw was the door close.I locked the door to calm down and a few hours later unintintionly fell asleep and it happend again.I ran out and got my guy freind and he calmed me down and promised to look out for him( the brother was "asleep" by that time).so that mournen I told my freind and from then till now I havnt spent the nite at her house . and the situation faded away.but last nite I did and it happened again i know I sould tell me mom but she d freak. this dude is a foot and a half taller with huge biceps. so I am scared. but if I tell my mom I might never be able to go hang with my freind. but then I know I should not because of me but because of the other girls he hangs out with. Please help me I am so scared no one is going to believe me!!! he is bible study leader loves god( acts like it at least) everyone loves him. and not even the ppl I told believe anymore!!! help:confused:
    All you can do is tell them what had happened if they don't believe you then there is nothing you can do but stop staying over at her house cause even if that is your friend and she is fun to hang out with... its you personal space that is beginning invaded and it could be your life... believe me if you keep hanging out there and sleeping over at night and he does do things to you... it will change your life and you won't trust anyone no more... which starts to bother you
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