okie.. so this is how it starts.. right they say there is always a give and take in a relationship? Well... I need your choice on what you think of me.. even negative BRING IT ON! :P xD hahaha! I'm going to give you a list of things of what I've done in the relationship...
hope u don't get shocked ( my guess you would say its supposed to be a mans job)
when ever we fight. I'm the one who comes close and ask forgiveness.. I'm always the one who remembers all or any special occasion between us... I'm the one who gives him stuff... I try to make him happy.. in short I do the things a guy does for a girl... is it wrong!? Because my friends say that I'm the opposite... but is it wrong? Should I try hard? What should I do to make the guy think I'm the one? =)
Darlin, those things aren't "the man's job," they are the job of both people in the relationship. And, actually, there aren't "jobs" in a relationship... a relationship should never feel like a job.
There is nothing you can do to make a guy think you are the one. If you feel you have to do something, then chances are, he's not the one/you're not the one.
Relationships are about being yourself, being completed, being happy, being with, being head-over-heals, being taken, being alive, being wrapped up in someone else, being content, being together, being IN a relationship.
Yes, it's a give and take. But its not a "I gave last time, so its your turn now." It shouldn't feel like a chore.
My advice to you? Sit back and really look at how this guy is treating you. From your post, it looks like you're the one doing all the being-in-a-relationship and he's just along for the ride.
You deserve someone who wants to be IN a relationship with you as much as you do. Hold out for that. You're worth it. :)
It's a 2-way street, give and take, just like you said. Does he return the favor? Aren't we talking about the same guy from your last question?. I'm a little weary. :/
Anyway, you are doing OK. I'd focus less on the "giving him stuff" part of the relationship, but everything else is good. If you really want to sucker a man into your life (haha), you must make him want you just a little bit more than you want him. Just a tad. Do that, and ye shall be rewarded!
My girl does the same thing. and i love her for it. and i havent loved anyone in my life.
as long as he dosnt take advantage of you, and treats you every bit as good as you treat him.
I dont see a problem :) i think your a great girl and if more people act that way Men and Women it would be a better place
We can't be perfect in relationships but we try and make the other person happy and thats what its about
them making us happy and us making them happy
There are so many people in this world, why would people setal for just an Okish kinda person bah go for the best! :)
never stop till you get it
Good luck to you!
oh k... haha... I'm single at the moment :P hahaha! Wishing for him to come back =) haha! but do you think he would come back to me if I asked him another chance? See this is what imean by.. doing the things a guy should do.. but how do I make a man think that I'm the one>? :P hahaha I need an advice from a guy.. =)
um.. yah he's the one.. haha! Forgive me if he's all I talk about.. :P hehe I don't know but he;s all that runs through my head :P xD ahah! O well... thanks so much for the comment too Historian chick =) heheh! I'll be waiting for him no matter wha.. I just hope I know how to make him want me :P
oh k.... haha... im single at the moment :P hahaha!! wishing for him to come back =) haha!!but do you think he would come back to me if i asked him another chance?? see this is what imean by.. doing the things a guy should do.. but how do i make a man think that im the one>? :P hahaha i need an advice from a guy.. =)
I THOUGHT SO! This is the same guy from the last question you had.
He moved on! He's not all of a sudden going to see you and be all "omg, look what she's doing now! I gotta go back to her!!11111"
Honestly, the best way to get a man back, is by living your own life. If you chase chase chase, or keep asking him questions or talking to him, all the while he's seeing someone else or just not going out of his way to see you in general, then you will just push him farther and farther away.
But if you move on, or pretend to anyway... and just do your own thing, he will wonder where you went! This will also give him time to think about things, and even wonder "you know what? That Kaytie chick wasn't so bad!" Absence makes the heart grow fonder. You need to give him time to miss you.
I agree with Eura if you chase that means they must be running. You can't chase somebody that is sitting there.
If you have to try he ain't worth your time.
I have done the same thing at least three times in the past 22 years and it ain't worth it cause they always ended up not worth it.
You know what they say about be careful what you wish for.
You sound like a really nice person. Honey, if he's moved on there really isn't anything you can do to make him think you are the one. That's a conclusion people have to come to on their own. There isn't any way to force him to like you.
I think all the things like remembering special occasions and giving him stuff is really nice. It's not the guy's job or the girl's job in my opinion. It's just something that is nice, that shows your love . But, if this guy doesn't want to be with you, all the nice things in the world won't change that. I would take some time and get over him. Then after a while when you feel ready to date someone again, then you can start over fresh with someone new, someone who will appreciate all the nice things you do.
Not mean or rude or anything, just asking 'cause I am only 25 and I am lost with all the :P hahaha :p Xd whatever whatever junk? Whoever thought valley girls would figure out a way to type like valley girls?
Oh yeah, and for my opinion. Just move on babe! You have a lot of life to live yet... don't sell yourself short!
As hard as it is right now, to see he doesn't care, so moving on is the thing to do. If he didn't appreciate what he had he never will, so stop wasting time on him, and let yourself heal from this ordeal.
okie.. so this is how it starts.. right they say there is always a give and take in a relationship? well... i need your choice on what you think of me.. even negative BRING IT ON! :P xD hahaha! im going to give you a list of things of what ive done in the relationship...
hope u dont get shocked ( my guess you would say its supposed to be a mans job)
when ever we fight. im the one who comes close and ask forgiveness.. im always the one who remembers all or any special occasion between us... im the one who gives him stuff... i try to make him happy.. in short i do the things a guy does for a girl... is it wrong!?! because my friends say that im the opposite... but is it wrong?? should i try hard?? what should i do to make the guy think im the one?? =)
I think you are right on track, its not you that has a problem is the abusive guy in your relationship.. He is taking you for granted. Sometimes they don't know what they have until its gone, but one day- a special man will make you feel good, buy you things "just because" and be an amazing listener. If you think of it like this... We are all here to find our soulmate, but there are a lot of people you will meet before he arrives. Some will love you more than you love them... those are the good ones :)
thanks all.. hahah!! dont worry.. no hard feelings going on =) its just i really needed to hear that... i know he's moved on.. i've noticed it... because i heard from a close friend of his who is mine too.. had told me that he has a new girl frend... and the worst part is its my bestfriend.. i think she's doing that because i just used to text her boyfriend for help about my ex but she tought maybe that im taking him away from her... but im just not that person she's thinking of...i just wish i wouldnt cry for love about him again.. >.< (in a good way) well... now.. yah.. i guess moving on is the best thing.. n when im ready get back on the track =) heheeh... wish me good luck for our contest on feb.8(band contest) o how i wish i was famous !!! =) o well.. thats what im trying now.. like they say.. no matter what happens in life.. its always filed w/toils & dissapointments.. but whatever happens... KEEP MOVING FORWARD!~~~---------------> hehehe =)
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