I've been with my man for 5 years, and I do love him. But I have not been truly happy. My man is a good guy but there are times when he would just ignore me for days (at one time 2 weeks) and would not pick up my calls or reply my texts. The relationship is very hot and cold. Sometimes when I talk he wouldn't bother to listen. He's usually "too lazy" to do things that I want to do with him and he hardly spends time with me. A few months back he said to me he wants to be in a "casual relationship" and he does not want to limit his option to me only. But the next day he said that he didn't mean it and that he loves me. Recently I put on a bit of weight (I do once a month during my menstrual cycle) and he told me that I'm putting on too much weight and that I'm a woman and I should take care of my image and it seems like I don't even care about my image then he said appearance is important for him. And since then he hasn't spoken to me and it has been 5 days. I love him but at this age I just feel like I need stability in my life. My friends are all getting married and I don't even know where I'm going in this relationship. I'm tired of feeling all bothered about where this relationship is going and I'm tired of getting hurt.

A healthy relationship is not hot and cold, nor is there any doubt.

You need to do what makes you happy and, from what you describe, that has nothing to do with this relationship. Where is it that you're going to draw the line and stop taking the emotional abuse? When is it that you're going to realize that this is the way you'll live for the rest of your life if you don't do something about it? There's plenty of guys out there who would line up to treat you right. First things first though, you need to take out the trash.