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    thisshouldbfun Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 25, 2011, 08:18 PM
    I am sure I am being used
    I met this guy 6 months ago. We went a couple times he asked me what I was looking for? I told him FUN since I was just separated from my husband but we hadn't filed for a divorce yet. We have been having sex on a pretty regular basis and we were seeing each other at least once a weekend. A couple of Fridays ago I wasn't available to him I was out with a friend (guy). Since then he has acted different, last weekend he didn't call or text me at all I actually didn't hear from him for 4 days. This past week he asked me to come to his place, we hung out looked up crazy things online and of course had sex. So last night (friday) I was out with a bunch of girls but he and I were texting the whole time but now again tonight nothing he did text earlier to see how I was feeling. When I was over this past week though he did ask me "have you actually filed your divorce yet?" I am sure he is just using me but I like this guy. He has been divorced for a couple of years.
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    fallintoautumn Posts: 9, Reputation: 9
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    Jun 25, 2011, 10:18 PM
    I don't really understand what you're asking here. Are you okay with him using you?

    When you first got together, you told him you were looking for "fun." Have you since explained to him that what you want has changed?

    I don't have a lot more information about your situation, but I think telling him what you want is a good place to start.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Jun 26, 2011, 11:27 AM

    It sounds like you are using each other for fun, and that has opened up some very intense feelings of curiosity, on both your parts.

    Now that you are having fun with each others bodies, then its time to talk, and get your questions answered.

    Can't say he is using you anymore than you are using him.
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    HurtScorpio Posts: 92, Reputation: 23
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    Jul 13, 2011, 04:35 PM
    When you answered his question with fun I guarantee in his mind that meant a roll in the hay when you both were available because you weren't very specific. You didn't give details to us so did you give them to him. You are insisting he is using you but have you confronted him about the nature of what "fun" means because you did not tell him a relationship,right? It seems you gave him that impression in the beginning so I can't say it is all his fault due to your answer unless there was more conversation. Was there?

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