Long story short I am a 27 year old female and had a "friend". He was a 38 year old male. We met 6 years ago. I met him through my ex. We only became friends but he always wanted more. We hung out and drank all the time. His pad was a party house for a while and he always pathetically tried to be with me. I wasn’t interested at all what so ever. He even got on his knees and begged me. I was so turned off... he’s not my type at all. I just don’t want to be with him plain and simple. No physical attraction, no emotions, nothing. I feel like he should have respected me more.

Well after a few times of begging and pleading I quit been friends with him. Then my ex best friend kept saying I should just try to be friends with him again so stupid me I did and the same but worse. He started being a pervert. Every time I went over there he would put on porn or say nasty gestures... just a total pig. Well I can hang with the guys so I put up with it for a while. I had a few boyfriends that he was constantly jealous of and made a fool out of both of us because he would always make my man feel uncomfortable by professing his love for me. My men felt sorry for him.

So I moved to another state and ended up getting pregnant and moving back to my home town. I already have an 8 year old daughter. Anyway he said I should get an abortion because it will be hard for me to find a man that wants to take on 2 kids! It was after that that I told him that I thought he was a pig, dirty, nasty and obsessive Mr. Know-it-all and he will never have a chance with me EVER! He only said that cause he's so set on having me be his wife and he's jealous that it's not his kid. I am so angry that I am so stupid to surround myself with such idiots! I have an ex that I only keep around for company because he hurt me before so now I just use him... its mutual actually but unhealthy and distracting.

Then I have a girlfriend that’s almost 40 and she acts like a child. Her parenting is whack and she says she can’t hang out with me and go to a bar we always went to because she has new friends and feels like they control her and if they see her at a bar other than a techno club they'll judge her. Where the hell did I come across these people?? I know you attract those like you but geez o'pete... where is there real people that have back bones??

Now I’m lost and pissed because I pushed them all away... why the hell would I want such pathetic people in my life?? I’m holding out to meet my new found friends when I start college in a few months. I’m hopeful that there are sane and grown up people out there somewhere.

We can not tell you why you make bad and poor choices, You need to look at your life and decide where you want it to go.

Good luck making better choices in friends and actions for yourself. College is a good step.