I am 27 years old man, I came to north America in 2005 alone without family, and that's when basically my life starting to change when I immigrated. I was very happy the first couple of years, but things after that started going down hill for me. On those years I met lots of girls, but I never had a real relationship till I met this girl( Linda). I loved her to death and she did too she was a couple years older then me then and she had a kid, I had some of my best moments with her, love making and so on, I loved her kid and she loved me too but when we moved together things started to change from helping her raising the kid to dealing with her ex. I did anything to make the kid happy and her as well, but our love to each other had never changed. After over a year she got pregnant we were happy in the beginning till her parents got in and started screwing with her thoughts, she ended up getting in abortion, I dropped her off at the clinic I felt that I was having a heart attack. In the mean while I never was faithful to her I use to work out of town and when I do I mess around with other girls( why do I have the need to do that if I am in love with her?) I told her about it , I felt that I needed to be honest with her but I had never felt guilty about it or sorry, she forgave me and we worked through it. Few months after abortion we broke up.we were still seeing each other after we broke up for sex for love and just to have each other. I loved her but I was not sure if I actually did I have this urge on wanting to see her every day. In the mean while I went back to modeling and I dated few girls from the modeling agency, I wouldn't say I`v dated them, its more of a sex thing .couple of months later I quite the modeling agency and I tried to keep away from girls because I just end up hurting them :(, But I love that attention so much the hot girls the sex the fun times, I was really bad , I dated over 5 girls at once, I use to sleep with 3 different girls a day. Some of them broke with me because they were worried to fall in love with me but they just want to have sex,I was fine with it. I had no problems in picking up girls anywhere from bars to coffee shops because of the good looks and the smooth talk. Over a year later it became boring sometimes I have to work really hard just to get it up and I have been always thinking about ( Linda). So I dated this girl just to be with one girl , she is fun she definitely loves me, and she does anything to make me happy. I was attracted to her but never fell in love with her or I don't even know what love is. This was 2 years after I broke with Linda I kept seeing Linda through the whole time, and while I was dating this new girl ( lacy) for the first year. Linda wanted us to get back together as I wanted too but she was moving out of the city, I wanted to be with her, but I couldn't deal with idea of her having a kid and still fighting with her kids` father and that caused us to always fight, and was not able to move out of city. So she moved away and I moved in with (lacy). I started cheating on her again and again she did forgive me and we kind of moved on when I told her about the first one or she actually found out about it, I have been with lacy for over 2 years now, I keep thinking about her ( Linda she is married now)all the times I don't want to hurt Lacy and she is a really good company she keeps me happy but the worst sex , sometimes I feel that I am wasting her time sometimes I love her sometimes not sometimes I want to marry her sometimes not, I am so confused about my emotional life , I don't know what to do any more :( help me please

I'm glad to see that Linda moved on without you. Hopefully she got a good man that loves and is faithful to her. You need to forget about Linda entirely!

As for Lacy, in my opinion you should do her a favor and break it off. No woman should have to deal with a man that cheats on her.

Sounds to me like you need to get some counseling. The problem isn't with the girls you date, the problem lies within you. To be perfectly blunt, I get the impression that you think you're really a "Mr. Studly" or something. You're giving yourself way too much credit for your sexual prowerness.

Get yourself counseling and get it together before you go back out there and try to find a woman to spend the rest of your life with.

You are self-centered, selfish, unable to control yourself sexually, you have the worst possible attitude toward women (sex objects for one), and think of yourself as some sort of God type male creature that women cannot resist.

You have one night stands and cannot remain faithful. I pray that you use condoms, or have women suddenly started popping up with paternity suits.

What makes you think you have any credibilty as a man, let alone the qualities and characteristics that go along with being anywhere near honourable. You use women, and discard them like so much garbage when you are through with them.

You take what you want because you can, and somehow can't stop yourself from seeing that you are the creator of your own lack of meaningful relationships. You cheated on Lynda without a second thought, as though this sleeping around is somehow normal. You brag about your conquests, and then blame Lynda's parents for them screwing with her mind, implying against you, and you need to wonder why?

Your arrogance is exceeded only by your complete lack of scruples.

You are a user, a player, and a morally bankrupt person to use women in this manner.

And you have the audacity to wonder what is wrong in your life? At 27 you should be able to figure out at least that much.

Girls are nice to be with but they are not disposable tissue napkins. Linda or Lacy are humanbeings too, if you care then please them for their own good.

Why not going to a licensed therapist to talk about what you have experience in less than 5 years? And since you are big guy why not hit the gym rather than seeing girls? Exert your energy & confusion at the gym. I am guessing that before coming to America you had little chance to be with girls & this came out as a big appetite to sleep around as much as possible.

You have immigrated to a country, I think you should respect the people around & set a better example of who you are. If you are that handsome then why not start being a decent guy too? It is never late to mend yourself. It is all right to be confused but remember it is abnormal to involve the whole town into your created confusion.

Sometimes I feel that I am filling the voids of missing my family with these girls. Lyndas parents never knew about me cheating on their daughter`s. they convinced her to have an abortion because I am not making a million bucks a year, I am a forman in construction I make decent money,and I go to school in the same time, I don't want to ruin what me and Lacy have I want to fix these messed up feelings. My family telling me to marry a girl from back home with same religion and tradition, I don't want to hurt lacy I care for her so much, I just don't think that I really love her. I am not bragging about my previous behavior, as I never told anybody how bad I really was except on here, I feel ashamed about I have done, I am a really nice person and try to help people with as much as I can

Keep telling yourself how good looking you are and you can't help it. I don't believe it. You may look
Like George Clooney but you are a
JERK. Those good looks are probably the only thing you have going for you.

In the old sex department I'd say you're maybe mediocre if that.
Virile men who are very sexual do not brag about it.

Get a clue... you're no day at the beach. You need to learn how to treat women and that's not as you have with a short "wham, bam, thank you maam". Grow up little boy.

Freebe,

It seems to me that you have it all figured out.

So, why are you on here asking us for advice?

You will never change. You think that you can use your charm and good looks to persuade these women to making love to you, then, BOOM, your out the door. On to the next one. Breaking hearts as you go along.

You don't love anyone, I doubt you even love yourself. You have no respect for women.

I'm glad Linda is not with you. She can do better. You used her, like you did Lacey, like you did, everyone else.

You don't care who you hurt along the way. YOu don't have sympathy. You think its all a game.

You should be careful that you don't catch an STD or give something to someone.

So, again, I ask you, why are you here asking, when you and I both know that you won't change??

See, this is why someone like me can't trust men.

Shame on you.

As for Lacy being the worst sex you've ever had, have you ever thought you may be the problem? Those girls who stop dating you because they don't want to fall in love with you, give me a break. The reason they
Back off is because they know what a jerk you are.

You need to get real and see yourself for what you really are. You are a vain, self-centered, narcissist, full of yourself dreamer. Don't think for one second the women you've dated here make you think all women are like that. Most of us wouldn't give you the time of day. It's called having taste.

You are totally attacking me. There s only 2 girls that ever broke up with me. And for your info they keep coming back to me, after them having a boyfriend or even marriage.

I am not that person anymore, I don't play with women at all. I just have these mixed up feelings about what should I actually do, any why do I have the urge of cheating I am trying to control myself. Is it normal to be like that forever?

I won't be asking for help here if I didn't want to change, I do want to change. I don't want to hurt anyone, specially Lacey, I just don't know from where to start. I am not a horrible person. I need your guys advice if I really could change

And what should I do

You guys telling on who I am . I already know who and how I am . Is there a way to fix that? Is that normal ? Does that happened? I wrote my relationship life for you guys to see where I came from, I am not here to get criticized or judged, if you have an advice then write it here, keep the other BS to yourself.
I can't think straight. I feel ashamed of what I have done before. I don't want to be that guy anymore. I want to be a normal guy that can have a normal relationship. I donno what to be a 100% honest guy specially with my girl.

First, you have to want to change. Second, you're attitude need to change. Stop acting like you're "God's gift to Women." It's good to have self confidence, it's not to be over bearing about your exploits and how many women want you.

Stop cheating and thinking about Linda. If you want to change get counseling and stick with one women. All you're doing by having multiple partners is endangering yourself and the other women you have sex with. Keep your wits about you and think with the head on your shoulders and not the one in your pants.

All right freebe,

Here is my opinion on your situation. I really believe at this point in your life, you shouldn't be with any woman. No relationships, no sex, no nothing.

You need to focus on yourself first. Figure out who YOU really are. I really believe that you need counceling. Serious counceling. You may have a sex addiction problem.

So, you may be a good looking man, but sweet heart, that in time will get old for a woman if you're not treating her right.

You need to start treating women with more respect.

I could see by your response to kitkat that you got angry because you have "feelings". Can you blame us though for being quick to shut you down? You show NO remorse to the women, or to US about these women. They too, have "feelings".

How would you feel if your Mother, or sister, or even daughter were being mistreated by a man?

I'm sorry if I came off as judging you, and my last statement was uncalled for. You need to understand though that in your story, that you just don't seem to care at all. And that's scary.

Please consider help for yourself by a professional.