So two and a half years ago, I broke up with my girlfriend who I had dated for over four years.  It was a painful time in my life and obviously difficult to get through.  I stopped talking to her, in an attempt to move on.  Here is where the story really begins... it starts where tons of stories usually do, guy meets a girl.  This girl was different.  She was beautiful and smart and we got along really well.  However, I was still rebounding from my breakup, but it was OK, because this girl was unattainable anyway because she was in a relationship.  This really helped me; I flirted with her, but would never do anything about it, because she was in a relationship.  I was able to develop myself into seeing myself with other girls (if that makes sense), but in a harmless way, because it would never happen with her.  This is when the plot thickens... she and I started hanging out more and more, and suddenly, we found out we had feelings for each other... real feelings.  This did not help me, I suddenly really wanted to be with this girl, but could not have her.  She told me that she was leaving town and would be gone for a long time, and her and her current boyfriend were breaking up.  I could not contain myself around her, and asked her to see me for lunch.  She happily agreed.  It was at that lunch that I told her exactly how I felt about her and she reciprocated.  The week before she was scheduled to leave we went on one date... which was amazing.  We were both in a rebound scenario.  The only reason (for both of us!) that we went on that date was because she was leaving.  Then she left... for two years.  For two years we did not speak to each other save a few cursory emails and the occasional, "I hope things are going well."  In that time, she dated several people and I did the same, but neither of us found what we were looking for.  After those two years, she came back to my town.  She contacted me out of the blue and asked if I wanted to meet... I agreed.  It was like she never left, the chemistry we both felt before, was there again, and this time... stronger.  The mutual attraction was amazing and we quickly started dating each other.  But now again... adversary is back and raising it's ugly head.  Since she has been back... we have not been able to truly see each other because her job makes her work upwards of 70 hours a week... however, whenever she has a moment of free time... we see each other.  Every time we see each other, it is amazing, when I see her, time stands still, but when we are together time flies and it is always late before we know it...   Now her job is taking her away from my city... maybe for good.  While she was gone, there were many times that I thought about her, and wished she was back, but there were many times where I was dating someone else and did not think of her for a time.  I cannot ignore the fact that we are amazing together, she has said it many times and I couldn't agree more.  When she leaves, I may be able to visit her this time, but she will still not be in this city.  I do not know what to do.  I do not know what to say.  I do not know where she will be next week, let alone a year from now.  I do not know if we were meant to be together or if this is some sort of cosmic joke on me... on us.  Please tell me that someone out there has been through something like this...

I don't want to be rude, but it does sound like a movie script. I'm not sure if your story really happened this way or it is you that see it this way. Never mind. Judging by what you said it's easy to notice that you still have very strong feelings for her. During the last 2 years you had barely emailed to each other you probably thought it was over and tried to hide any aspirations related to what could have been. Though, it took you a few seconds to remember all the times you were together and all the feelings you had for her and that's because her message came out of the blue and probably hit you when you expected the least and when you needed the most a person to care about you.

I don't know you personally, you seem to be good guy, though, but you must distinguish clearly your feelings apart from her feelings. Moreover, you need to take into account the fact that you two will be apart for most of the time and since both of you don't have any plan to see each other at least one time a month it won't work. Moreover, at some point one of you have to move town. You cannot have a long distance relationship forever.

Once more, you need to know what she feels for you before putting so much effort into relationship. If both of you want to make it work and you love each other enough there's no doubt you'll end up together otherwise it will be only a wate of time and energy.

I would go with her bud? Don't let her be the one that got away. The regret will never let you fully stop thinking about her ,even when uou are with another girl.. certain things will constantly trigger memories. Idfor sure talk to her about going with. Eexciting risk of a lifetime.. where you dobtseem like you have a ton to lose, but seriously everything to gain

I have never gone through this before but I think that if your heart and intuition tell you that you will regret letting her go, then you must fight to keep the spark alive. The combination of true love, amazing chemistry and finding that person that makes you feel your best is very rare to find. When we find it, we must hang on to it and never let it out of our sight. Otherwise, how will you feel if another guy got handed the opportunity that could have been yours? If you're holding back because you have a stable career and would have to move there to be with her, then I can understand your dilemma. But like I said, if you think you have found someone truly remarkable, it's a must to pursue it. Otherwise you will always be asking yourself the "what if" questions that always follow the regret we have for not following up on our instinct. Voice how you feel to her and if she wants you just as badly I'm sure you'll both come up with a solution to be together. Good luck!

I know, it is just the worst case scenario for me right now, because I am a person who wants to solve problems and the only thing I can do right now is be patient and wait. She has told me that she shuts down when she is stressed or depressed and that is what is happening right now. I just hope that I can go with her, it may not be a possibility... I know it is going to get worse before the end and I don't know what that end will be. I appreciate the advice.

The truth is no one really knows the final outcome. Being patient with her, for now, is the best thing you could do for her. If she knows exactly where you stand and she has a chance to reevaluate where a relationship with you would lead, she will come to you with her own insightful decision either way. As some time has passed though, you will have to decide when you want to break the silence and let her know where you stand (if she doesn't already know) because if you don't, you will constantly regret it. It is up to her how she chooses to receive that information. But for now, yes wait and when she's available she will talk to you more openly. I understand you met her after your 4 year relationship ended. If so, just be sure you're not wanting to be with her because you are trying to replace that empty feeling you have as a cause of your previous breakup. Otherwise, you're wanting to be with her for the wrong reasons. If you feel like there are no more emotions connected to your 4 year relationship whatsoever, then I still think this girl sounds like she's worth the risk.

I have told her how I feel, and she said that it was the sweetest thing she had ever heard and that she never had a guy who was willing to move out of a chair for her, much less move to be with her. You are right, I need to actually learn patience at some point in my life, I hope I can learn it now...

Sounds promising so far. I hope she is willing to put in the effort you deserve! Good luck!