I dated my ex-boyfriend for 6 months, which may not seem THAT long to many people, but it was a significant period for me. They were by far the happiest 6 months of my life. We were the perfect couple and only argued about stupid things once in a while. After five months, he went on a trip for two weeks, and obviously made some new friends, including many girls. I didn't mind the fact that he had met some girls; however, they had posted many things on his Facebook wall that made me a little worried. When I asked him about it, he told me it was fine and brushed off the subject, not really taking the time to reassure me. I spoke to our mutual friends that were on the trip with him, and they told me that he had never cheated on me and that he had told a few girls that he had a girlfriend. He broke up with me a week upon his return saying that he just didn't feel the same way about me anymore.

This was in May.

4 months later, I'm still crying about it. We both go to different schools now but I still think about him constantly. I attempted to be his friend, thinking its better than nothing, but he just pushed me away and hit on my best friend, which made me cry even more. A lot of people tell me he's changed for the worst and I've noticed it too. I still can't seem to stop loving him. He's done so many things in the past 4 months that have hurt me, yet I'm still hoping that we'll get back together. My friends all think he's a jerk and they don't understand why or how I could still like someone who treats me like garbage. They just don't know him like I do. I still know that he's a good person and has a good heart even if he did do some stupid things. I always tell myself that he's probably just annoyed by me, because it was not till recently that I stopped pathetically attempting to reconnect with him. I KNOW that we won't ever get back together, and I've tried so hard to make myself stop hoping for something that could never happen. I'm tired of moping around and feeling sorry for myself. I told my friends that I wouldn't go out with them anymore because he happens to be part of my group of friends and every time I see him, I just cry. The pain I feel just isn't worth going out. I just really don't know what to do anymore. Please help.

I felt also that tremendous pain when I lost my ex and where I hoped to get back with her. Of course I kept contact with her and I tried to be her "friend".

What made me go forward is my brain taking over. I was so hurt, that I didn't want to suffer anymore. So I decided to start No Contact, cut all ties, not see her again and get myself back in track. Now 4 month later, I never felt as good as I am. I'm confident, meet new people, made new friends, went on dates, lost 22 pounds, got girls interested in me...

You can continue your path or you can try to have the same happiness that I do, and just apply NC. You should read the stickies, and you should stick to them.

I've applied NC, I even went away for a month because I didn't want to see him anymore. I was fine for maybe 2-3 weeks and then when I saw him again, all the feelings I had for him started coming back.

Every time you contact him, you reset all the progress you've made. So in fact, you've only recovered from the last time you spoke with him.

You need to go NC 100% until you're over him, otherwise it's not going to work. You need to pretend as if he doesn't even exist on this planet. Furthermore, you need to stop talking to your friends about him. Getting updates about her, good or bad, will just hinder your progress in the healing process.

Go meet new friends and do hobbies or activities. Stop thinking backwards. Move on with your life.

I agree with I Wish.
You need to move on. This guy doesn't deserve your thoughts. He treated you terribly.
NC for the win in this situation.

Yep all these peoples are right aye, I totally agree :)

If you work on your esteem issues that maybe you could build confidence. Unfortunately what they don't teach you in school is that characteristics of confidence is not developed because of exterior factors (sexual appeal) but rather interior (how you view yourself). When you build confidence; you build yourself. Do not identify yourself with material, people, places or things but rather you as a whole. It is okay for you to feel the way you do and honestly, truly "feel" those emotions... come to terms with it and let it go. Because the more desirable you want to be reflects on how self-assure you actually are! Know what you want and get it... but only those things that will support your growth... a man is a man... but you are very special and have so much to give yourself... appreciate yourself and love yourself because you are deserving.

Ima let you in on a secret, it's been 8 months my ex broke up with me and I still cry sometimes and I'm a guy! But I've learned that it's good to cry and let it all out and it starts to feel better. Truth is we might never stop loving them but that doesn't mean we should put our life on hold. Eventually the feelings will fade and just be happy memories and eventually we'll be with other people.

Don't be discouraged. Stay with NC, and eventually seeing him will NOT be so emotionally trying.

It takes time and your on a good path.