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    Josh93 Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 5, 2009, 09:38 AM
    3 years differents
    I have meet this really nice girl over the internet she is 13 and I am 16 we have been talking for 3 months now and we are in love when I frist meet her she told me she was 15 and she told me a different name but she just didn't want to give out her real info because we meet in a chat room but I'm OK with that now I'm from australia and she's from the us
    I'm not with her to have sex with her I never have been we like each other for the reasons that make us us we are open about our lifes and we don't lie to each other
    She's really pretty and she's only 13 and I'm 16 I am sure I want to be with her its just I can't not for a long long time its hard that I can't get to hold her in my arms
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:21 AM

    What's your question?

    I'd like to point out that you have no way of knowing that she's being completely open and honest with you now. It's soooo easy too make a fake account or profile. So easy to pretend you're someone you're not online. She lied the first time. How o you know she isn't still lying? If it's even a she. And come on, your 16. She's 13. You live in two different continents. Do you really think her parents are going to let her fly halfway around the world to meet someone she met on the internet? They'll probably be thinking that you're some creepy old man trying to lure their little girl away. And even if you were to come here, do you really think her parents would allow you to date her right now? Yeah, there's some parents that don't care. Bu there's still a lot of parents that are very protective of their little girls. You two are at completely different points in your life. She's getting ready to start high school while you're probably about close to graduating or getting ready to graduate. It's all just sounding like a bad idea, don't you think? If I were you, I'd stick to meeting people in the real world right now, not the virtual online one.
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:28 AM

    Have you seen her birth certificate? Passport photo? Anything other then what she chooses to show you?

    She lied once, so she's not averse to lying.

    For all you know she's a 48 year old pedophile preying on teenage boys.

    I don't believe in love at no sight.

    Chances are this won't happen anyway. The distance is too great.

    Find someone real.

    Good luck.
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:31 AM

    First of all, I myself am in an international internet relationship with an age difference.

    And I know you think you are in love because you have a good relationship. However, she does lie to you. Remember she lied about her age, starting with lies isn't a good thing.

    As for the age difference, this is tough.
    13 and 16 can be a big differnce. Not because of years, but maturity level.
    13 yro girls try too hard to impress guys, and will do things they will end up regretting.

    What you should do is keep in touch with her. Don't let it fade, but don't tie yourself down.
    It will be a looonnnggg time before you can see each other. And by that time, I'm sure you will both be different people.
    Plus, if you don't talk to other girls, and she doesn't talk to other guys, then you will both be in a veerrrryyyy immature relationship.

    I hope this helps you a little bit. And giving this advice kind of helped me, even though my situation is slightly different
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:31 AM

    OK so I KNOW she is not lying to me
    And we didn't mean to meet the way we did
    And we have been talking on webcam so her mum has seen me and well her dad don't like me because he thinks I'm lying to her
    They are mexican so yea if you no how they are he never going to like me lol
    All I want is some replys about this
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:33 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Josh93 View Post
    ok so i KNOW she is not lieing to me
    and we didnt mean to meet the way we did
    and we have been talking on webcam so her mum has seen me and well her dad dont like me because he thinks im lieing to her
    they are mexican so yea if u no how they are he never going to like me lol
    all i want is some replys about this
    Replies about what?

    You didn't really ask a question, you just told your story.

    What exactly do you want to know?
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:37 AM
    She lied about her age so I would treat her normly and not like a kid
    She's really mature for her age
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:38 AM

    I want to know what other people think that's all
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:41 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Josh93 View Post
    i want to know wat other ppl think thats all
    Well then, I have nothing to add. I already told you what I think. You just don't want to hear it.

    Good luck.
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:46 AM
    Try something different, I know it's going to sound crazy. Try meeting a girl face to face, in your home town. You'll know her age, what she looks like, and you'll be able to see her from time to time. Good luck to you.
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:47 AM

    Hm... yep. Still thinking it's a bad idea. Her dad doesn't like you and you jump to racial stereotypes. He probably doesn't like you because his daughter is 13 and talking to you and you think you're in love with her. I can see a father of any race not liking you. And lying about her age doesn't make her mature. That's a sign of immaturity.
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:50 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Josh93 View Post
    ok so i KNOW she is not lieing to me
    and we didnt mean to meet the way we did
    and we have been talking on webcam so her mum has seen me and well her dad dont like me because he thinks im lieing to her
    they are mexican so yea if u no how they are he never going to like me lol
    all i want is some replys about this
    1. She's already proved to be a liar.
    2. You two are a half a world apart.
    3. She's only 13.
    4. Her father doesn't like you.
    5. There's culture shock built in already, Mexican and Australian.
    6. There's no way the two of you will meet in person (within the next ten years).

    This is my reply: Return to the real world and date real girls.
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    Jul 5, 2009, 10:54 AM

    From mexican I meant how they are with there kids so go yourself about that part
    And I have seen her I no her age I no more about her life then her own mum and dad
    Why does everyone thing it's a big lie and that we are not telling the truth to each other
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    Jul 5, 2009, 11:04 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Josh93 View Post
    from mexican i ment how they are with there kids so go your self about that part
    and i have seen her i no her age i no more about her life then her own mum and dad
    why does everyone thing its a big lie and that we are not telling the truth to each other
    Please retype that in English.
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    Jul 5, 2009, 11:05 AM

    Excuse me? Go __ myself about that? Who do you think you are? You came here looking for feedback and that's what you got. And guess what, you're wrong. While some mexiacn families are very strict with their daughters, not all are. I've seen plenty of young mexican girls out with their families and their boyfriend there too. So stop stereotyping.
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    Jul 5, 2009, 11:05 AM
    Lets say its true. What is also true is your getting so carried away by your feelings for someone on the INTERNET, your making having a pen pal with a web cam, so important your forgetting that in reality you are so far away, and so young, that you cannot have a normal relationship where you are.

    What's the chances you will meet up in less than 10 years lets say? NONE!!

    What's the chances you will feel the same about each other in 10 years? EXTREMELY SLIM.

    Enjoy your chats, but live your life in the real world too.
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    Jul 5, 2009, 11:23 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Josh93 View Post
    from mexican i ment how they are with there kids so go your self about that part
    and i have seen her i no her age i no more about her life then her own mum and dad
    why does everyone thing its a big lie and that we are not telling the truth to each other
    Hey little dude, don't make a statement like:" if you know how THEY are", and not be ready to get some feedback. How can a 16 year old kid from Australia be such an expert on Mexican culture? Oh yeah, from the INTERNET.

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