I have been on the site for the past week. I know not long at all, and I have seen various posts like my situation. However I felt the need to post since I feel that my situation is unique.

Over the past couple months starts had started to break out between my girlfriend and I over complete random events. Fights would start over everything which would lead to her leaving my house or me leaving her house. We both live fairly close to each other, if I had to walk to her house it would be 30 minutes walking or 10 minutes by car. Her family likes me and her younger sister (only sibling) get along very well. Her friends are nice to me since I have known my girlfriend and her friends for 5 years. We went to school together. Now were in College, and things started to deteriorate. We soon started to not hold hands, not to cuddle. We started to go on less dates (my fault) and it seemed to me that all we did was have sex and kiss.

One day, she told me that she would like to feel how it is to attract other guys. That it has been only me going for her and she hasn't experinced anything new. Basically try other guys out. This worries me a lot, I tell my friends this and they immediately tell me to leave her. She also tells me that she doesn't know if she loves and doesn't know if she wants to stay together. Everything that she was telling me was absolutely negative. That Saturday, we went out to a club with all my friends and my girlfriend, after 1 hour waiting, my friend and I do not get in but my girlfriend does. She turns around and tells me that she is going in without me. The background to this fact was that her cheerleading team that she is part of, were all going clubbing and she was invited. I still find that even though it's a team party, she still invited me. I was really mad and I think one of her friends told my girlfriend about how mad I got. We did not speak for a couple days after this until about the 2nd day into the break. She tells me to come over and speak to her. She tells me that she has misses me and that she doesn't understand why we went on a break. She waited by her phone for my calls or texts but since she told me no text I didn't text. She said that she really cared about me and that she wants things back to normal, calling it, cleaning the slate. We set rules for each other so that we can better this relationship. Everything was fine and we had sex after. What bothers me now is the fact that she said, I want to take it slow but then right after tells me that she wants to have sex. Everything is fine, right?

I go see her the next day, she is cold to me and not very talkative. She tells me that whatever she said to me the other day was false. She doesn't care for me anymore and that she didn't even want to have sex, she says that her feelings for me have changed but does not know why. I do not think that she is cheating on me, because she is the shiest girl I have ever known. That she doesn't know if she loves me but told me the opposite of everything she said now, yesterday. Now I am really confused and hurt.

She switches her mind every day. Last night I went to a party with her, a huge party. She was with cheer until 12am and then could be with me. Well I waited for her till about 1am sitting beside her while she talked to her friends, I asked her to go dance but she told me soon. My friends walk up and then suddenly she says lets go dance! I go and try to dance with her but she pushes me away whenever I try to hold her. As of now, I am trying to call her or talk to her to see what will happen here, I plan to talk to her and understand everything. We haven't talked in ages, or held hands or anything for the matter.

I do not understand at ALL what is happening to here, everything is semi-fine until BAM. I want to try other people, to feel attracted AND she told me that she wants to know how summer would be single as she did nothing her entire High School life. Her moods change really fast.

I came on this site for answers to my problems. I think I already know what the answer will be though. I am really hurt by this all and have cried many times. I don't know what is happening, I really love her though still even after all this. I think that finding a girl after this will be hard for me as my friends and I do not really go out that much. Is there a way to fix this relationship between me and my girlfriend.

You can't fix everything, but she wants you to break up with her, so do so, and leave her alone. How do I know this, her actions, and words.

Another thing to remember, is you need a lot more balance in your life to be happy, and not depend on her.

Honestly, I think you both are holding on to nothing, and any honest communications have been lost in the confusion, and you need a break, really bad to get your true selves back.

No communications, then nothing can be worked on, or fixed.

I don't want this to end this way though. I love her so much.. I am trying to contact her but she won't answer any of my calls or anything. I want to go see her to discuss...

Leave her alone.

Okay..

Sorry for be abrupt, but I say leave her alone because she obviously doesn't want to discuss it, so don't push it.