Hi everyone, I left my partner of 10 years to be with who I thought was the love of my life, we have been together for a year albeit a long distance relationship. When we first got together his ex partner wanted nothing to do with him, she suffers from mental health problems and stopped him from seeing his 16 year old daughter so for about 9 months he had no contact with his daughter. Back in February this year his ex phoned him to tell him she was ready to talk and her father had died. He immediately went round there and started building bridges with his daughter.

Now he is saying that he can only offer me friendship as he is afraid if he lets them know we are together he might lose his daughter/family again. He wants friendship with me so much and still claims to care and be in love with me. I have told him I would never stop him from seeing his daughter and why can't we be together.

I just can't do friendship as I am too emoitionaly involved with him and I asked him to end our relationship and he says he can't not be friends with me. I decided I cannot do this anymore so I ended it. 3 days into no contact and I am missing him so very much. When does it get easier and have I done the right thing ending the relationship. Any help advice would be greatly appreciated. I feel hurt that I made the move broke my family up and all for what?

Yes you have done the right thing for yourself. As he has greater priorities than the relationship, and you will in time see that more firmly, and carry on with life without him. Trying to be friends with an ex you are still attached to is never a good thing, and life is to important, and short to waste on false hope.