Hey folks its me again.

Last time I was here I had recently got back together with my ex, she had cheated and broke up with me, I spent a good 9 weeks trying to win her back and eventually did.

Everything was great for the first couple of weeks, it was last old times but in the back of my mind there was something lingering. To put it simply I just didn't trust her anymore, something had changed and the relationship just didn't feel the same.

Eventually we broke it off and funny enough I was pretty fine with it. You see I realise now that when we lose someone we kind of think about all the good times and great things that you did with that person, you put them high up on a pedestal and they almost become god like if you will.

I did exactly that with my ex and when I got her back I was very dissapointed, it wasn't how I remembered it at all, or was it? You see because we think so highly off then when that leave we forget all the crap we went through in the first place with them, we crave that happiness again without realising that we were never that happy in the first place.

I firmly believe that second chances don't work because, at least in my own experience, we build up an image of an ex that just isn't the person that exists, so getting back together leads to disapointment.

Sorry to go on a little there but thought I would get some of my thoughts out.

If the reason of break up is either 1)betrayal, 2) abuse (emotional, physical & economic), 3) BIG lie and overcomplacency, I WISH NOT TO HEAR ABOUT AN EX FOR A DECADE.

There's a ole saying if you love someone and let them go if they love you back and it was meant to be they'll come back rite into your arms... that's what you did but didn't want her after all. But the thing is people change arelationship change but its up to you to decide if you could deal with the changes or not love or no love

Your not the only one who got an ex back, and realized that things have changed.

I got a second chance with my ex, and things have changed so much it made it easier for me to let go and move on... so the best thing to help me get over her was getting her back