Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    Rusidewayzz2's Avatar
    Rusidewayzz2 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
    New Member
     
    #1

    Apr 5, 2007, 10:31 PM
    Sibling Taking Advantage of Grieve Stricken Parent
    [F]
    Sister and Brother in law have had my Mother sign over her home to them under false pretenses. The home originally belonged to my grandmother - who in turn had my mother put on deed- (Never my Father - who solely supported this home for 53 years until his death last year), purposely so the home would stay with the family. When my Grandmother was dying in 1990 the same pattern was done - my mother put my sister on deed - Not her husband, with the same intent to keep home in family. Well my sister has time and again over extended herself financial and has used the home for consolidation after consolidation loans. When her credit was exhausted she turned to my mothers. Well through my sisters financial wizardry she purchased items on my mothers credit and had her file bankruptcy last year and told my mother she was signing loan documents to "PROTECT ", the house from creditors. Well needless to say that was not what the documents where they were a deed from a Title company. My mother has been taking a heavy narcotic pain killer for several years due to severe arthritis of the spine there is no way she could have comprehended these type of documents. She totally trusted that my sister was looking out for her best interest, but now understands the underhandedness done, but has no idea of how to rectify situation. What if anything can we do? We have funds to obtain a lawyer if need be but what kind of lawyer? How about any debt that is owed on the home? It was free and clear! Who will have to pay that? Please help we think my sister is about to try and sell home. Is there a place we can find out if there is a lien on home? Is it public record? My grandmother would roll over in her grave if she knew an outsider was on this deed. Thanks in advance for any advice.
    froggy7's Avatar
    froggy7 Posts: 1,801, Reputation: 242
    Ultra Member
     
    #2

    Apr 6, 2007, 05:29 AM
    If I understand the situation correctly, your sister's name was on the deed already, so she was going to get the house when your mom died, correct? So, it seems to me that you were going to run into this situation sooner or later. There doesn't seem like there would be anything that you could do to stop your sister from selling the house after mom died.

    Unless this is seriously going to affect your mother (was this an asset that she was planning on using for financing her retirement, for example), I'd think long and hard about what you want to do here. For one thing, I don't think you will have much luck in court unless your mom is willing to admit that she is not capable of taking care of her finances, and needs a guardian. I am assuming that she is still on the drugs for the arthritis, and that means that someone else could get her to sign something. Plus, and this may just be from the way you summarized the situation, it does sound a bit like one sibling being jealous of the other one, and your sister may be able to play that card in court. So, the actions you take may tear your family apart forever. On the other hand, that may be what you need to do if your mom does need someone else watching out for her finances.
    Rusidewayzz2's Avatar
    Rusidewayzz2 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
    New Member
     
    #3

    Apr 6, 2007, 05:44 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by froggy7
    If I understand the situation correctly, your sister's name was on the deed already, so she was going to get the house when your mom died, correct? So, it seems to me that you were going to run into this situation sooner or later. There doesn't seem like there would be anything that you could do to stop your sister from selling the house after mom died.

    Unless this is seriously going to affect your mother (was this an asset that she was planning on using for financing her retirement, for example), I'd think long and hard about what you want to do here. For one thing, I don't think you will have much luck in court unless your mom is willing to admit that she is not capable of taking care of her finances, and needs a guardian. I am assuming that she is still on the drugs for the arthritis, and that means that someone else could get her to sign something. Plus, and this may just be from the way you summarized the situation, it does sound a bit like one sibling being jealous of the other one, and your sister may be able to play that card in court. So, the actions you take may tear your family apart forever. On the other hand, that may be what you need to do if your mom does need someone else watching out for her finances.
    There are 4 other children and situation is exact opposite it is my sister and her husband trying to take control without the rest of us knowing. She is the only one who has not been financially responsible enough to get out on her own! She is 45 years old! She has been married for 17 years and could not save up a down payment for a home.

Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions

 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

Mother In Law taking advantage of us [ 8 Answers ]

My girlfriend and I love each other very much and we have a wonderful little boy called Alex who is now three (I am 34 and she is 25). Her mum looked after Alex for well over a year as both of us worked. We paid her £300pcm for that as she had bus fares to pay for from her house to ours, which she...

Dishonest electrician taking advantage! Options? [ 4 Answers ]

Hi there, I've got a terribly strange situation on my hands. I'm a small business owner with two other women, and an associate of mine recommended an electrician/handyman to do a fairly big job in my business: -Replace a single phase breaker with a 3-phase breaker in my shop, and run new...

Dishonest electrician taking advantage -- options? [ 3 Answers ]

Hi there, I've got a terribly strange situation on my hands. I'm a small business owner with two other women, and an associate of mine recommended an electrician/handyman to do a fairly big job in my business: -Replace a single phase breaker with a 3-phase breaker in my shop, and run new...

How do I make him stop taking advantage [ 7 Answers ]

I have been with the same guy for 7 years. I know that he is not using me for sex because our sex life is not that active. I do think/know he takes advantage of my kindness and of me finanically. How do I stop this from happening. I am a nice person by nature and would do almost anything to make...

Taking advantage or what? [ 10 Answers ]

So I got this job a little over 3 months ago through a temp agency, when I interviewed they said I would be a receptionist/ admin assist. I do NOT do any reception or admin assist. I am in the shipping dept. handling mail and shipping and receiving. When I started working they offered me $13, which...


View more questions Search