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    Jul 11, 2010, 10:59 AM
    Deadbeat son
    Our 22 year old son lives at our house. He has a barely running vehicle, no job and doesn't really try hard to get a job. He has wrecked the upstairs, recently had his girl friend living here as well (she has sinced moved out), pays no rent, helps with nothing around the house, plays rotten music, stays up all night and sometimes is gone for days at a time. We feel that we are not doing him any favors at all with this life style. When we try to encourage positive things we never know how he will react, then we have to pay that price of wrecked walls or whatever. We have had enough and think that he needs to leave this house and figure it out on his own. We live in Michigan and need to know what the law is here.
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    Jul 11, 2010, 01:44 PM

    Someone with more experience in Michigan State Law can perhaps add to this, but if you are wanting to kick your son out, you follow any regular eviction protocol

    Guidelines for Michigan Residential Eviction
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    Jul 11, 2010, 04:48 PM
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    We have had enough and think that he needs to leave this house and figure it out on his own. We live in Michigan and need to know what the law is here.
    If you wanted to know the laws, why didn't you ask in one of the law forums? I've moved this the correct forum,

    Your son is a resident and has to be evicted according to local laws. You can go to your local housing court to find out the specific process. But general you give your son 30 days notice to vacate. If he's not out within the deadline, then you go to court for an eviction order. This involves a hearing at which time an eviction order is issued. If he still won't leave, you hire a sheriff to physically remove him.
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    Jul 11, 2010, 05:28 PM

    I don't know anything about the law but I will tell you this, you have enabled him in this lifestyle and you supported him by letting him stay. He brought his girlfriend there and you allowed it.

    So you have finally come to the conclusion you've had enough?
    It's about time. The only positive encouragment he needs is a swift kick in the rear as he is following his suitcases out the door.

    The police will come if he starts breaking the walls. You need to kick him out. If you feel unsafe that's what Police Departments are for.
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    Jul 11, 2010, 06:04 PM
    You should tell him you want him out and don't approve of his lifestyle. When he starts punching holes in walls you call police and have him taken away for domestic violence. Hitting walls is a form of abuse and they will take him away for it. He will need anger management classes. You can also get a restraining order against him. It sounds harsh but the soft love isn't working so now the next step is tough love. Get him straightened out before it goes too far.
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    Jul 11, 2010, 06:14 PM

    You have gotten a lot of great advice, you choice is which way you want to to do it, but it all starts in given in notice to move.

    As one suggestion, what I did with one of my older sons when I was getting them on their own. I took them and rented them a "furnished room" in a rooming house, and agreed to pay for it for 2 months while they got on their feet. I made sure that the landlord knew I was not renting, the boy was.

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