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    Jan 2, 2013, 11:35 AM
    My ex boyfriend got me pregnant and left
    My ex and I been together for 3 years, we are both 19. He would say I can't wait to marry you and start a family, then a couple weeks ago we found out I was pregnant, he said well I will make appointment for abortion, I said I didn't want to do that, then a couple days later he breaks up with me in a text message just says I can't be with you anymore, I asked if it was because I was pregnant he says no, but am sure it is, it's been 3 weeks since he broke up with me. He blocked me on Facebook won't answer any my calls of text messages, then text me At 3 in morning and said I don't want to talk to you or have anything to do with I want no further contact. I don't know what to do :(
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    Jan 2, 2013, 11:39 AM
    You do what you have to do... if you decide to have the baby.. make sure he has to pay for it by going through the court... if you decide not to.. then do that... but he's made it clear... he's not going to be marrying you.

    Me personally.. I think it really is about you getting pregnant... he wanted to have fun... now he realises there was a price to pay and isn't being mature about it.
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    Jan 2, 2013, 11:40 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    You do what you have to do....if you decide to have the baby..make sure he has to pay for it by going through the court......if you decide not to..then do that....but he's made it clear...he's not going to be marrying you.
    Thanks
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    Jan 2, 2013, 11:40 AM
    Need a license to fish, hunt, drive a car, sell stuff at a garage sale, but not to have a baby.

    Your boyfriend (and maybe you) are not ready to take care of a child emotionally, physically, financially, etc. Obviously he is avoiding you because you are pregnant. He can avoid the physical and emotional side of being a parent. He can't avoid the financial side. Basically he made his bed - he will have to sleep in it.

    This is just my opinion but I think your parents should have a little discussion with his parents. And both of you should do two things. Really consider giving the baby up for adoption if you are not ready to be a parent. And remember birth control next time.
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    Jan 2, 2013, 11:45 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Oliver2011 View Post
    Need a license to fish, hunt, drive a car, sell stuff at a garage sale, but not to have a baby.

    Your boyfriend (and maybe you) are not ready to take care of a child emotionally, physically, financially, etc. Obviously he is avoiding you because you are pregnant. He can avoid the physical and emotional side of being a parent. He can't avoid the financial side. Basically he made his bed - he will have to sleep in it.

    This is just my opinion but I think your parents should have a little discussion with his parents. And both of you should do two things. Really consider giving the baby up for adoption if you are not ready to be a parent. And remember birth control next time.
    Okay, thank u
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    Jan 2, 2013, 11:50 AM
    One other thing...

    "My ex boyfriend got me pregnant and left"

    Oh noooooooooo. It takes two people to do that.
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    Jan 2, 2013, 11:54 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Oliver2011 View Post
    One other thing...

    "My ex boyfriend got me pregnant and left"

    Oh noooooooooo. It takes two people to do that.
    Very true
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    Jan 2, 2013, 11:55 AM
    I figured you knew that - you were just typing fast. I do that all the time.
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    Jan 2, 2013, 11:56 AM
    Honestly you don't need him as much as the baby will need you . As much as it will be hard try your best to be a good mother and forget about him.. When he decides to be in the baby's life well if he decides to but make sure he pays child support cause its unfair that he got you in to this mess and just leaves you
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    Jan 2, 2013, 11:58 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by foxrider7 View Post
    honestly you dont need him as much as the baby will need you . As much as it will be hard try your best to be a good mother and forget about him .. When he decides to be in the babys life well if he decides to but make sure he pays child support cause its unfair that he got you in to this mess and just leaves you
    Aw thank you

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