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    lonely2010 Posts: 58, Reputation: 4
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    #1

    Aug 17, 2010, 03:07 AM
    About friends
    Friends are one part of our life. We can't live without them to share.
    But wats hard for me is: I couldt open heart to them in order to avoid jealous... I feel worried about this, even it makes me unhappy . So now, actually I hv no close ones who I can share my secrets to. Wats wrong with them? And wats wrong with me?
    Lonely, what shall I do?
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    Aug 17, 2010, 07:12 AM

    Maybe you're not capable of trusting them because they aren't trustworthy. Why not meet more people? It's not always easy to find really good friends that you can completely trust, but by meeting more people, you increase your chances. Just go meet more people and see where that leads.
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    Aug 19, 2010, 04:14 AM

    Maby they just don't worth it
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    Aug 21, 2010, 10:00 AM
    lonely2010,

    The one sure way to have friends is to be a friend first.

    You want a friend to listen to your stuff, try listening to their's first.

    Showing that you are interested in other people gets them interested in you.

    It's all a matter of give and take.
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    Aug 21, 2010, 09:49 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Bluerose View Post
    lonely2010,

    The one sure way to have friends is to be a friend first.

    You want a friend to listen to your stuff, try listening to their's first.

    Showing that you are interested in other people gets them interested in you.

    It’s all a matter of give and take.

    I am warm-kinded person. I love to give more than take.
    And if I always do this and with nothing responded that would make me feel umcomfortable. I don't want to get sth from others . Just need to think about if its worthy when I take my time and energy to do things for some people.
    Actually I always gave. Was I stupid?
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    Aug 22, 2010, 07:52 AM

    You come across as very nice and caring and yes there are some people who might take advantage of that. All the more reason to choose your friends wisely and remember, we can be kind and considerate without giving too much away. It may take some time for people to trust that you are sincere but continue to be yourself and give others the benefit of the doubt. And smile!! (lol)
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    Aug 29, 2010, 06:55 AM

    Thx!~
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    #8

    Sep 17, 2010, 04:42 AM

    I still need new friends in my life, I mean new good friends. Because the old friends are having less in common now. What shall I do? Still feel lonely sometimes.
    Hv to keep exploring,though its hard to meet good ones.
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    Sep 28, 2010, 05:27 AM

    You need to get out in the world and meet new friends. Don't limit yourself to the ones you have now that you aren't happy with.

    There are a lot of good people out just like you waiting to find best friends, but you have to make yourself available to find them.
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    Sep 29, 2010, 02:15 AM

    Yea... sure.
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    Sep 29, 2010, 09:18 AM

    Go out and join clubs, volunteer, do sports. Just put yourself in a position to meet new people.

    As you grow up, you will realize that you can't keep all your friends. It's not that someone did something wrong, you just grow apart. You have your own lives.
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    #12

    Sep 29, 2010, 05:00 PM

    I can't agree more!

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