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karenthomas · Oct 11, 2009, 12:38 PM

I'm at the end of my tether with my 13 yr old daughter. She is out of control she don't like being told no if she doesn't get her own way she will hit out at me and even her young siblings... she has before know broke my arm' hit my across the head causing me to have concussion I just cnt take anymore I'm a single mum of 6 children and none of the others are like her... she will hit out at anyone she don't care who it is. I'm not in full health and I'm rli finding it hard to cope. Please somebody help me what do I do? Is there help I can get for her or is there something wrong with her.

kab2011 · Oct 11, 2009, 01:53 PM

If I were her parent I would take her to see someone but that may end up making the situation worse. You may want to talk to a psycologist or a doctor. They may be able to help point you in the correct direction. Whatever you choose to do, you probably would be doing as good a job as any of the rest of us.

Fr_Chuck · Oct 11, 2009, 02:01 PM

So she was has been in Juv detention for her abuse of you??

You have had the juv court system involved to get counseling and perhaps boot camp

artlady · Oct 11, 2009, 09:17 PM

There are numerous programs for kids that are out of control.
Call her school guidance councilor and tell him or her what is going on and they can put you in the right direction.
In the mean time you can call the cops on her.
If you kid is that bad.. CALL THE COPS!
What is stopping you?

CGM91 · Oct 15, 2009, 08:49 PM

Originally Posted by artlady

There are numerous programs for kids that are out of control.
Call her school guidance councilor and tell him or her what is going on and they can put you in the right direction.
In the mean time you can call the cops on her.
If you kid is that bad..CALL THE COPS!
What is stopping you?

It is her daughter? She is a loving mother.

I would send the kid to boot camp and get a reality check.

However before I make an irrational decision, what is HER side of the story? What makes her act out so physically?

justcurious55 · Oct 15, 2009, 08:59 PM

Time for tough love. Doesn't matter what the kid's side of the story is so much at this point, acting out violently is not acceptable and will get her no where far. Getting her under control is very important because it's pretty much damn near impossible to talk things out with someone who is violent. I like the idea of boot camp, hopefully she'll learn effective ways of communicating so that her mother will be able to talk to her about her issues.

artlady · Oct 15, 2009, 09:35 PM

Originally Posted by CGM91

It is her daughter? She is a loving mother.

I would send the kid to boot camp and get a reality check.

However before I make an irrational decision, what is HER side of the story? What makes her act out so physically?

I know she is a loving mother and a loving mother does whatever is needed to get their child under control.If she needs a wake up call by having the cops show up at her door ,it's a darn sight better than having them show up to inform the parents that she is in jail for assault on someone else.
Tough love is sometimes the only way to go.Loving your child means making tough decisions that are painful as a parent for the greater good of the child.

Alty · Oct 15, 2009, 09:40 PM

Originally Posted by CGM91

It is her daughter? She is a loving mother.

I would send the kid to boot camp and get a reality check.

However before I make an irrational decision, what is HER side of the story? What makes her act out so physically?

Her side of the story?

She's 13, obviously has a loving parent, but she acts out violently, enough so that her mother has suffered broken bones because of her actions.

This kid needs a swift kick in the arse and now.

Boot camp a psychological evaluation, tough love, everything you can think of. She's 13, this will only get worse if it's not controlled.

Calling the cops on your child doesn't mean your don't love your child. In fact, it's exactly the opposite. It takes a caring loving mother to put a stop to their child's dangerous behavior.

artlady · Oct 15, 2009, 09:45 PM

Originally Posted by Altenweg

Her side of the story?

She's 13, obviously has a loving parent, but she acts out violently, enough so that her mother has suffered broken bones because of her actions.

This kid needs a swift kick in the arse and now.

Boot camp a psychological evaluation, tough love, everything you can think of. She's 13, this will only get worse if it's not controlled.

Calling the cops on your child doesn't mean your don't love your child. In fact, it's exactly the opposite. It takes a caring loving mother to put a stop to their child's dangerous behavior.

Out of greenies :(
We are so on the same page here.I can only suspect that the person who made the comment about a loving parent has never faced the challenges of a difficult teen.
Been there,never want to go back! :eek:

CGM91 · Oct 16, 2009, 07:33 AM

Originally Posted by Altenweg

Her side of the story?

She's 13, obviously has a loving parent, but she acts out violently, enough so that her mother has suffered broken bones because of her actions.

This kid needs a swift kick in the arse and now.

Boot camp a psychological evaluation, tough love, everything you can think of. She's 13, this will only get worse if it's not controlled.

Calling the cops on your child doesn't mean your don't love your child. In fact, it's exactly the opposite. It takes a caring loving mother to put a stop to their child's dangerous behavior.

I agree, however. I am stating that perhaps the problem is the mother? You don't know for fact that she treats her daughter like a princess. It could very well be that the mother is abusive to the daughter?

It is sometimes more practical to look at a cover of a book and expect you know what it is all about, but I think in this situation to read the book and make an accurate assumption rather then assuming is the more plausible choice.

Yes, attacking your mother is wrong. *correct*

Getting an authority figure invovled may have to be done. *correct*

But it is very hard to believe that a 13 year old is not being influenced by someone. I think the story goes deeper. Unless of course the child has Anger Issues or is Mentality not fit.

justcurious55 · Oct 16, 2009, 10:53 AM

I can agree that there may have been abuse towards the daughter at some point, or maybe there still is. It's very possible. But seeing as how abusive she is towards the mother, I'm doubtful it came from the mother. And no, she probably isn't the perfect mother, who in this world is perfect in anything though? I agree the story has to go deeper. But again, getting her under control has to happen first.