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    onmyknees Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 29, 2010, 09:37 AM
    Son uses abusive language
    How do I deal with an adult son who is narcissitic, overbearing & verbally abusive?
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    Jul 29, 2010, 09:40 AM

    Since he is an adult... tell him what you think of it, and then distance yourself from him if he doesn't have enough respect for your wishes.

    If he lives with you, and doesn't respect you enough to stop, give him a time limit to move out.
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    Jul 29, 2010, 09:46 AM

    If he lives with you.. tell him to stop his behavior or get out!
    Could you elaborate a bit more on this?
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    Jul 29, 2010, 09:56 AM


    To be abusive in any way to your mother is beyond belief .

    Don't allow him in your house until he apologizes and will vow never to do it again

    If there is a big brother have him discuss the matter. Big brothers know what to do to get a point across.
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    Jul 29, 2010, 09:59 AM

    You want this to stop?

    He's an adult?

    Show him the door.

    Tell him to leave,and come back to you not to live, but to make amends and an apolige.

    If he can't respect the women who reared him,some tough love is the way to go.

    I'm sure he has friends he can stay with,and I'm sure once he gets a healthy dose of reality he won't be so quick to abuse you.

    Tell him,out ,today,now.

    Don't tolerate his behaviour for another second,you deserve more,you expect more from him.

    He makes the decision to verbally abuse you,he can also make the decision to stop,he chooses not too... show him the door.

    Your house,your rules and a little respect is not much to ask for.
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    Jul 29, 2010, 10:02 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by redhed35 View Post
    you want this to stop?

    hes an adult?

    show him the door.

    tell him to leave,and come back to you not to live, to apolize.

    if he can't respect the women who reared him,some tough love is the way to go.

    im sure he has friends he can stay with,and im sure once he gets a healthy dose of reality he wont be so quick to abuse you.

    tell him,out ,today,now.

    dont tolerate his behaviour for another second,you deserve more,you expect more from him.

    he makes the decison to verbally abuse you,he can also make the decison to stop,he chooses not too....show him the door.

    your house,your rules and a little respect is not much to ask for.



    Got to spread the rep.. great advice all three of you. I swear I believe if one of my kids swore at me I would slap him in the mouth with a fly swatter. :eek:
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