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    kylesmom Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    May 22, 2006, 07:51 PM
    Hi, I am new here and need help
    Wow, where do I even start? Well I will begin with telling you that I have a 15 year old out of control son who has ADHD and drug addiction. He has been experimenting with drugs since grade 5! In the last couple years things have gotten a lot worse. He went to live with his father for 10 months and returned to me a crystal meth head. He had been doing meth, pills, smoking crack, and smoking pot daily. I had him in for psychosis (apparently drug induced) He was delusional, paranoid, and abusive. Things were calming down somewhat after the chemicals were out of him, until he started to hang out at a woman's house. She is 51, has 2 boys of her own, and sells/grows pot and deals to kids. Her belief is that pot is medication. Since he began hanging out there he is horribly abusive. He moved in with her 3 weeks ago and has been aweful. They now want money from me and I am living in hell. I won't go on any more with this, I know it is long enough as it is... if anyone has advice/coping strategies... please let me know... oh I have been to the police and apparently there is nothing they can do.
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    May 22, 2006, 09:03 PM
    WOW well first of all let me say welcome to the forum, although I wish it were under better circumstances. I see you are in Canada, and I don't know if the same laws apply to minors there, but for a start you could report him as a runaway, he is 15 and it should not be legal to just move out and in with a 51 year old woman. He needs to be in rehab/counseling. As his mother, I wouldn't know why you could not force this issue. I too have an ADHD teen and thankfully she has outgrown it for the most part and gotten off her meds. I know how challenging and frustrating it can be. Meth is the demon drug that not only steals your mind and body, but also your soul. I have many friends and family members that have fallen victim to the evil of meth. It's one of the hardest drugs to quit and coming off it is horribly painful, not only to the user but everyone around them.I wish I had more helpful advice for you.but I offer you my support and hand in friendship. If you just need to talk you can private message me and I would be happy to give you my email address.
    I hope things get better for you. Take care. Amy
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    May 22, 2006, 09:26 PM
    Sorry to hear about your predicament kylesmom

    The cops you spoke with were mistaken. Tell them that you have legal custody of your child and she is in fact kidnapping him, or possibly a run-a-way (as Stormy69 suggested).

    If the cops won't do anything, then go to a lawyer to speak on your behalf, or, even cheaper, perhaps get the boys father to assist and yell at the cops. Even in today's world, sometimes people respond when a man gets angry than when a woman does. Fair? No, but I have seen it happen many times.
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    May 23, 2006, 05:19 AM
    Hi,
    You have some good answers.
    I would just like to add that being an "enabler" just doesn't work!!
    Helping your son with money, or helping whoever he moved in with money will NOT help your son. If you don't already know the word, "enabler" is someone who does things that actually keep the drugs and alcohol flowing, helping them to continue with what they are doing.
    I agree with calling a Lawyer, one possibly suggest by friends, or someone in your local area. Find out what you can do legally, and follow the Lawyers advice.
    Meantime, please do NOT give your son or anyone associated with him, any more money, or anything. At some point, he himself, must learn that he has to make it in this life on his own; helping him now will fight completely opposite of that. I know it's hard to do that, but in the long run, will be better for him. Hopefully, a Lawyer can make some suggestions. I do wish you the best.

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