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    Oct 23, 2012, 07:34 AM
    Daughter hates me
    My adult daughter is so angry but I've done everything in my power to make her happy. Her dad and I split up when she was 16, she's 20 now. We tried to make it work but he started dealing drugs and I told him someone had to be there for our girls so I ended our relationship for good. By this time he had moved out and was doing good for himself, then he started DOING the drugs, in and out of jail, also lost his license to drive and then his job. By this time I was dating again but didn't introduce my new boyfriend for about a year. My daughter was a softball player for her school and her grades were very bad. I told her to bring her grades up or I was taking her out of ball. ( she has played since she was eight). Well, ball wasn't important enough or she didn't believe me because I made her quit ball. The next year she tried out, she played so good, better than most but they turned her down and said the reason was she was undependable. That year she went to her dads, who was living in our old camper in a bad trailer park, met a boy that her dad introduced her to, ran off to Florida with him and ultimately quit school in eleventh grade. As soon as I found out, I found her and she told me she wanted to come home and I left work that night, drove eight hours and drove back and went to work. I was working two jobs then. Before she went to her dads, I bought her a car that she totaled in two months. Now she's an adult with a baby. A lot more has happened but nothing that she should hate me over. I've helped her get a house, evverything to live, she never had to buy the first household item, I gave her all mine. Her dad tells her lies of course and I try not to talk about him with her but sometimes I want to defend myself. Anyway, her dad got out of jail the last time and she moved him in with her so she could "help" him. Now this is the place I put her up in and now I can't even see my grandson when I want. This is just a mess!
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    Oct 23, 2012, 07:41 AM
    Stop doing everything for her, make her work and earn her own way, make her buy her own things. Be there for her when she comes to you.
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    Oct 23, 2012, 02:34 PM
    I have got the same problem. I remain widow for the 14 years to raise my 2 kids. I am now 43, I became widow at 29, worked hard to support my kids. My elder son is now 21 and other one is 19. I belong to a religious asian family. I had chance to get marry and live my own life 14 years ago but I sacrificed because of my kids. Now I have made secret bf(as relationship without marriage is not permitted in my culture) and my sons are annoyed with him as well as me. Your daughter is behaving same to u.

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