I've been married for almost eight years to my wonderful husband. We have two beautiful children. One girl and one boy, ages 4 1/2 yrs and 5 1/2 months old. They are the light of my life. But here's the complicated issue. My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship almost 13 yrs ago. He was 17 and his baby's mother was also 17. She had the daughter without letting him know when he broke up with her. Two yrs later, he is forced to take a paternity and pay back and current child support. His plans on going to college was put on hold to work overtime to pay off the debt. She never once even bothered to contact him until he looked her up and decided to have a relationship with the child. When they reunited, the baby's mom wanted him back, but he doesn't want her. He only wants a relationship with his daughter that he doesn't even know existed until now. But after her advancements were discouraged, she starts to not let him see her, playing ridiculous games and basically just made his life hell. When we met, I didn't want anything to do with her knowing how toxic she was. But the child custody issue took a turn for the worse. She started to defame his character and even made up so much sh**, that we decided that it was best to have nothing to do with her. She was destroying the child's life to no end and blaming us for everything when we don't even see her. For example, we her a beautiful costume for Halloween and when he went to pick the girl up for his court-ordered visitation, she refused to let her go while the girl cries her eyes out for her dad. After several months of this nonsense, we decided to focus on our life/future. It's been almost eight years and we both since went back to college. My husband graduated not too long ago. We have a beautiful home and a happy life. But she still to this day after having two children out of wedlock, still causes trouble by saying my husband is a deadbeat. He pays child support faithfully, but she plays so many sick, twisted, immature games that we don't want to deal with her at all. We feel so bad for the child, but don't know what to do? Please help!