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    maxxon20s Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 6, 2009, 10:14 AM
    One night stand and now she says she is pregnant
    So I meet this girl online and we talk for a while and then one day we meet which was 3 weeks ago. We have sex and the condom breaks she says keep going I'm on the shot its OK I have been on it for years. Well we just had sex that one time we do hang out more but just that one time. I have kids and a ex wife in another state. I tell the one night stand girl that I will be spending most of my time with my kids in this other state and she gets upset and says what about us I love you oh and by the way I am pregnant. What do I do this could really screw my life up I hope she is making it up just to try and keep me here it won't work but I hope it is all a lie. And that night we had been drinking.


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    Nov 6, 2009, 10:46 AM

    If she is indeed pregnant, and the child is yours, you are responsible for it no matter where you live.

    Only time - and a DNA test will tell.
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    Nov 6, 2009, 10:51 AM

    I agree. It sounds like she could be trying to scare you--or even trap you. But all actions have consequences, you'll have to face the music if she really is pregnant.
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    Nov 6, 2009, 06:32 PM

    For someone who claimed she was on the shot for years and then suddenly turns up pregnant 3 weeks after a one night stand I find quite dubious of it happening. She's probably doing this to hang onto you. She sounds extremely neurotic and insecure.

    If she is pregnant, then only a DNA test will determine if you're "it" or not. Bide your time and take a DNA test when it is time. In the meantime you can avoid her if you so wish to do.
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    Nov 6, 2009, 06:56 PM

    Sounds like a nut case and lying. But only time will tell, if in 8 1/2 more months he has a child, you get a DNA test. If you are the father, you merely have to pay child support

    Remember no form of birth control is 100 percent so even with any of them, the lady can still get pregnant, so if you have sex, you risk being a father each time, The protection only lowers that chance
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    Dec 15, 2009, 05:48 PM

    Ahhh turns out she did lie
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    Dec 15, 2009, 07:04 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by maxxon20s View Post
    ahhh turns out she did lie

    Did you learn anything from this that you would like to share?
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    Dec 15, 2009, 07:39 PM

    What he could have learned??

    Lie about who you are on the one night stands so the girl has no way to contact you?? /
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    Dec 16, 2009, 07:33 AM

    No, I was thinking more along the lines of not having one night stands and/or when "We have sex and the condom breaks she says keep going im on the shot its ok" NOT "keeping going."

    Or maybe just the knowledge that having sex can lead to pregnancy.

    Might cut down on the Family Law questions.
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    Dec 16, 2009, 05:07 PM

    I have learned a lot from this be very careful who you have sex with and always use a condom not matter what
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    Dec 16, 2009, 05:13 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by maxxon20s View Post
    I have learned alot from this be very careful who you have sex with and always use a condom not matter what
    Good lesson. :)
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    Dec 17, 2009, 08:02 AM

    Someone once told me to look at every sexual partner as the potential "other parent" of your potential child.

    Kept me straight more than once.

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