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aukenii · Sep 10, 2009, 05:47 PM

I allowed my daughter and son in-law to move into our finished basement in order for them to be able to put there money twords some rather large legal fines she acquired. For a minimal fee of 1/2 the utilities and 1/2 the groceries ($200.00 plus what they eat a month)all they had to do was help out around the house and obey the house rules.When in Rome ,do as the Romans do).We told them they can't fall behind because if they fall behind we fall behind. We do not profit at all from them. And our budget was already squeaky tight.
Its been hell! They fight all the time, they accuse us of getting into there stuff. He has a nasty cocky attitude.She talks to us like we are dirt.They pay very little on there fines.They have 4 dogs that are not trained,and go potty in the house.We are constantly doing there dishes and cleaning up after them and there dogs.He is never on time with his $200.00 dollars and there eating us out of house and home.
Now that I have lost all my overtime and am laid off allot we are having a hard time making ends meet and if something doesn't give, we may end up into foreclosure.

What do we do?

Did I mention the chewed up wood work,dinning room set and other things that the dogs damaged ?And the broken trim,front door and other fixtures damaged when they get into fights?

HistorianChick · Sep 10, 2009, 06:08 PM

You tell them that you love them and will always love them, but that they have to be out by October 1 (or whatever date you choose). Give them time to find a place, but be firm. That is your home. They are destroying your home. They don't care, because its not their own.

Be firm, be kind, give them a date, and start pointing them towards a new place.

Gemini54 · Sep 11, 2009, 12:27 AM

Sounds like hell on earth to me. I agree with H/Chick - an ultimatum is the way to go.

I would take your daughter aside calmly look her in the eye and tell her that you can't support them emotionally or financially any more. Give her the move out date and give her a written list of what needs to be repaired. Let her know that she has a choice - she can pay up or she can move out and you will not make her responsible for the repairs.

Plus, put a lock on the fridge and the phone and you could remove the electricity connection to the basement.

Alternatively you could change all the locks and put their stuff on the street. Of course she may never talk to you again!