So I kind of have a long story. I'll try to shorten it as much as possible. When I was about 12 years old my mom went to go live with her boyfriend, which was two hours away from our own home, and I didn't want to move to Austin so my mom and the two sisters I was living with made te decision to let me stay with them instead of moving to Austin. Well after my mom was gone, they felt like they had to be my "mothers" but I still only saw them a my older sisters and nothing more. One of my sisters in particular, her name is Carol, would try to control me and tell me what to do way more than my other sister. Well my other sister moved out because she couldn't live with carol anymore. Carol is a very difficult person to be around. She's just so overbearing. So that just left me and carol to ourselves. Well over the years anytime I did even the smallest thing wrong, she would try to have this whole long conversation thy just ended up as her yelling at me for past things. She could never keep the conversation to the matter at hand. And when that would happen I would just tell her what she wanted to hear so I could get away from her. My mom now lives back with us, and I'm in college now. My sister still treats me the same way that she did when I was 12 and I'm going to be 19 in a month. I don't have a job or a car yet. I don't really have the means to get a car and it's hard enough to commute back and forth to school. Carol pays most of the bills as my mom has always been a stay at home mom. She always tries to tell me that it's my responsibility to clean the house every day and walk her dogs every day. I usually don't clean the house because I don't feel like it's fair for carol and my mom to make the mess (they are both very messy and carol is kind of a slob) and then expect me to clean up after them. I want to move out asap but I know my mom is going to take it hard because every time I mention it to her she flips out on me. And when I try to talk to my mom about how controlling carol is she always takes her side and tells me that she needs help (we think she's bipolar) and we're her family so we have to deal with it and help her. I really hate the way my mom listens to everything that carol tells her about what I can and can't do. I wanted to go spend the night at my boyfriends house and my mom said okay but then carol told her to not let me go and then my mom changed her mind and told me I couldn't. I just really need some advice on how I can change all of this. I can't talk to carol because she always turns everything around and tells me that it's my fault she gets that way and yells at me (even though I know it's not all my fault) an when I tell my mom I can't live in this environment anymore she says that I have to. Carol always waits tntil my mom is gone and then she comes and gets mad at me for stupid things like taking a shower when I woke up instead of cleaning the house or walking the dogs and said I was selfish and yelled at me for it. She tells me that she is going to break all my stuff and that I can't tell my mom about our little conversations. I tell my mom anyway but she never really listens to me. She thinks if she ignores it it will go away. I think I'm started to get depressed. I really need help. If you've read this far I really appreciate it. There's so much more I could say but I think this is already long enough. Thanks in advance.

Your 19. Get out, go live. Don't waste your life. If you don't do something now, its going to keep on going on.

We're the same. My older sister is still controlling my mom. I want to go out of state. But my sister won't let me. But you know what. I'm tired of listening to her. We can't let them do this to us. We must stand and fight for ourselves.. move out!! Be happy and do what you want to do in your life. Good luck to us!:)