[zachary12321]

I lived with my dad from 10-14 before he married a b.i.t.c.h. with 4 kids and after all that he desrted all three of his kids for her and her kids she had no job for 5 years now 17 moved out over the summer what can I do without hurting her and her kids see my dad again when both of us hate each other.

[Wondergirl]

What DO you like about her?

[Wondergirl]

I'm trying to help you, zachary. Give me a chance.

[zachary12321]

I completely hate her

[ZoeMarie]

Wondergirl really is trying to help. She just needs more info, and I actually was going to ask a couple questions too if that's OK, just for clarification

1. who is it that you hate? Your stepmom or your dad? Or both?

2. why would seeing your dad hurt her and her kids? He's your dad and they should understand that? Did something happen that we don't know about?

[Wondergirl]

What kind of control do you think she has on your father, that he deserted his first family? What does she give him?

[ZoeMarie]

My dad deserted my brother and I when we were 8 and 11 for a B*tch too, so I can relate, it's just that after 5 years my dad came around and saw what he did was wrong.

[zachary12321]

I mean like fighting and I hate both of them and I'm a teenager I'm mean

[zachary12321]

I've told my dad, my sisters told him also to leave her and I've told him I hate her

[Wondergirl]

Is this what you wrote (I tried to clarify it) --

"I lived with my dad from age 10-14 before he married a b.i.t.c.h. with 4 kids. When he married her, he deserted all three of his kids from his first family, kids he had with my mom. The new wife has had no job for 5 years. I'm now 17 and moved out from my mom's house over the summer. What can i do so I can see my dad again and not end up hurting the new wife and her kids? The new wife and I hate each other."

[zachary12321]

I don't know what he see's in her but my sisters already a few times threatened to kick her a.s.s.

[zachary12321]

Yes

[Wondergirl]

So you are all really mad at him because he deserted you. The new wife is just the monkey in the middle.

[zachary12321]

Yes

[Wondergirl]

(Please be patient with me. Trying to figure this out by typing is a lot harder than talking to you in person or on the phone.)

Have you ever met her or her kids?

[zachary12321]

I mean no

[zachary12321]

I was living with them for a few years

[Wondergirl]

Ok, check if I understand. Your dad deserted your mom and divorced her and married this other woman with four kids. You (and your sisters) moved in with your dad and his new family.

Yes or no.

[Wondergirl]

Part 2 -- Or, more likely, your sisters stayed with your mom and you went along into the new family with your dad. (Usually the court orders the girls to stay with the mom and the boys to be with the dad.)

Now that you are 17, during the summer you moved out and want to see your dad and spend time with him but without any of his new family.

Part 2 -- Yes or no.

[zachary12321]

No I moved out of my dads house and when I was 10 my real mom and dad split I felt sorry for him so I stayed now I don't even talk to him