My parents split about 2 years ago. Although they split then she has never been interested in getting the actual divorce until she met a guy at work. She worked with him for about a month and then over the 4th of July my brother and I got to meet him. Well now he is coming around every day sometimes twice a day. At first I thought he was okay. (although it is still weird that its not my father.) he told her all these things about him having a huge house lots of money a secret room in that house as well as sitting in the backyard watching deer run. Well afterwards she found out all this is not true. I found this out and I wasn't okay with it. (not the fact he doesn't have all that just the fact that he lied) so this whole thing changed how I viewed him and made me wonder if there was something else he was hiding. They have now known each other for about 2 months. She met his dad and when his brother showed up at his house all he said was "she's a girl from work" he doesn't even call her his girlfriend. Now I come home from my boyfriend's house and I get a text from her saying he's spending the night. She's made comments about this before when I try telling her that I don't like him. She always promised me that she'd never get remarried and had no interest in dating (why the all of a sudden change when the divorce isn't even final?) I feel like things are moving wayyyyyyyy too fast she's talking about him moving in with us already and saying things like so what you don't like him maybe ill just marry him then. I feel like things have changed so much since she met him. I want nothing more then for her to be happy but why can't it wait until kids aren't involved. I have tried so many times to explain to her how I feel and she just gets all defensive about it and it turns into a big fight. I feel like we are fighting constantly lately and that it's only getting worse. My mom and I use to be really close she was like my best friend and honestly I feel like I'm losing that. I feel like that just because I don't like this guy that she's pulling away from me and giving me the impression that she doesn't really care.

Now you know how we parents feel when our kids fall for and get giddy over someone we aren't too happy about. And it's worse in your case for all sorts of reasons.

There's probably not much you yourself can do about it. The more you object to him and push him away, the more your mom will defend him and try to rationalize a romance.

Does she have a sibling or friend with some good sense whom you could talk with and explain your misgivings about this man?

She complains of my boyfriend all the time and how she doesn't really like him and expects me to fix that yet when it's the other way around there's nothing to be done.

She does have one sibling but if I went to her and told her anything every little thing would go straight back to my mom. And she isn't the most rational person to be going to for advice.

My mom's normally a pretty rational person I just don't know what's gotten into her. She always use to say that if her kids (us) weren't okay with someone she dated if she decided to date again that she would stop and that our opinions counted also.

Have you tried sitting down with you mom and reminding her of the promises that she had once made to you? Of course she may not like hearing this since you said she has changed quite a bit from what she used to be but you definitely need to make it known to her that you are hurt from how much she has changed and that you really miss the relationship you two once had.

She will always view this as she is the mother and she can do what she wants because you are her child, so all you can do express your feelings to her. In the end she is going to do what she wants but at least you can feel a little better knowing you did all you could to explain your feelings to her.

I hope all works out for you.