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stfuxojenxokmlr · Feb 25, 2009, 01:52 AM

OK so I've been seeing my brothers best friend, but he doesn't no and neither does anyone else. We always go to private kind of places. Yesterday we went to his house and went into this field behind the firestation. We had our first kiss and we cuddled and stuff. And I really like the kid, and he likes me to.
Am I doing the right thing to be with him? Or should I tell him no? I feel kind of guilty for doing this behind everyone's back. But then again I'm really happy I get to see him and stuff because I love him and I love being with him.
What should I do?

ChihuahuaMomma · Feb 25, 2009, 02:08 AM

If you really like him then why hide it? Be honest with everyone.

139033 · Feb 25, 2009, 02:37 AM

Your age and relationship matters in this.
But still I think you are wrong at your part. When you know that you are doing wrong and still continue means you are cheating yourself and god also.
Happiness is not the ultimate in this world. One has to follow certain discipline and rules in life

Dare81 · Feb 25, 2009, 02:56 AM

Originally Posted by 139033

Your age and relationship matters in this.
But still I think you are wrong at your part. When you know that you are doing wrong and still continue means you are cheating yourself and god also.
Happiness is not the ultimate in this world. One has to follow certain discipline and rules in life

How is she cheating herself and god, am I missing something here?

stfuxojenxokmlr · Feb 25, 2009, 05:22 AM

But he wants to keep it a secret because if we tell anyone we wood both get in trouble. And my brother would rely hate him for sneaking around with me, and hanging out with me and I would get in trouble from my brother too, because they are best friends, and I'm afraid I'm going to ruin their friendship.

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kirriky · Feb 25, 2009, 05:50 AM

If you carry on with the relationship and try to keep it secret at the same time, at some point your brother will find out and THEN he sure will be upset about the two of you lying to him. From the way you talk about it, I guess you're teenagers and I see how teenage boys wouldn't want their little sisters dating their buddies. But, really, you're not doing anything wrong, things like this happen all the time and your brother will have to live with it. This boy has to be man enough to admit it in front of his friend (your brother). If he doesn't, I wouldn't bother with him anymore.

Unless of course you're 14 and he's 21 or something like that. Then you're right about feeling wrong about the whole thing!

HistorianChick · Feb 25, 2009, 07:02 AM

I agree, how old are the two of you?

Hiding and sneaking around never pays off and someone always gets hurt.

stfuxojenxokmlr · Feb 25, 2009, 04:47 PM

Well I'm 14 turning 15 in may and he's 15 turin 16 in November... and OK...
I sure don't want to get hurt again lol..
So I should tell my bro (which by the way is 16)?

Fr_Chuck · Feb 25, 2009, 04:58 PM

So he is ashamed to admit he has a girlfriend ?

chuff · Feb 25, 2009, 07:20 PM

Originally Posted by stfuxojenxokmlr

ok so i've been seeing my brothers best friend, but he doesn't no

This is hardly your brothers best friend. He's not even a friend. He's keeping something like this from your brother and you think this is friendship? If he doesn't have the balls to tell your brother what he's doing, why should you trust him?

Romefalls19 · Feb 26, 2009, 07:35 AM

You are playing with fire, if this "relationship" ends, it will most certainly end a friendship as well. And Chuff is right, if he doesn't have the set to tell your brother, then he isn't a good guy at all. Own up to his actions or stop this

talaniman · Feb 26, 2009, 08:08 AM

You both need to talk to your brother.

jessmania442 · May 12, 2009, 02:10 PM

If he's your brothers best friend shouldn't u tell him or ask whether you should tell your brother?