Well I haven't seen or heard from my oldest brother in years 4 to be exact. He won't talk to me because he is mad at my parents for a bad childhood, I'll admit it was really bad! But I still talk to them so he doesn't talk to me, but my other brother talks to them also and he talks to him, just found out he had major back surgery and is at home on bed rest, my 3 year old has never seen him and I miss the hell out of my 2 nieces and nephew, they won't even let me be friends with them on Facebook. What can I do?