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    Jul 13, 2013, 07:23 PM
    Why do people call me fake... what is fake...
    There are so many things that people want, I for one want things as well.
    But lately I've questioned things because I feel that the posibility of me faking what I want is just around the corner. That sounds weird, but I often ask myself what do I really want... when I hang with friends, I constantly question everything I say in my own mind, things like " was what i said fake," or " am i being judged as being Fake?". I like to be a nice person, and smiley. I also feel like I can't agree anymore because the second I agree I am held to that eternally. For instance, One day I noted a certain girl I was attracted to, my bud, who likes different women, advised that only certain woman can be really beautiful. From then on, I decided to take on his theory, and moved a different route in women I was attracted to. Whenever I saw a girl that met that criteria, and even if I wasn't entirely attracted to her I would remark to myself, " wow shes hot" and a lot of girls were hard to converse with because I was always looking at a girl sexually. Personally The kind of girls I like are still the same but I feel like when I see certain girls I should be attracted to them, when in a lot of manners I could just tell myself I'm not attracted to them and whatever. Still to this day its hard to talk to girls I like but that's out of question. More and more things I changed about myself because I felt the things that I liked were not good enough... the way I talked, the way I sat down the way I played video games the way I do martial arts, and all of this was because I didn't stand up for the things I really adored, and liked.
    This is where all this ties. By the way, I really wish to respect women and that's how I was raised...
    This year I've been trying to find the things that I once was, and because I changed things that I liked solely because I was being judged kills me. I am brittle scattered and down about it. I want to be me, really but I am scared that ill just break down to this pattern again someday. I want to stand up for myself, But when I make a really big deal about something does it mean I'm fake?because I get anxious about my answers and I don't always have an answer if ever, does if mean that I'm fake... please give me some insight...
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    Jul 13, 2013, 07:56 PM
    People do change... but they don't change every day... they do it over a period.

    If you are constantly changing frequently.. it makes you look like you are agreeing to fit in... not because you believe it.

    Some people do that thinking that it makes them fit in... when people see it as being "fake".

    A fake person is not Genuine... as in their public face appears to be one thing while their true feelings are something else.
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    Jul 13, 2013, 07:56 PM
    People have their likes, dislikes and preferences. Its Okay questioning things, looking at things from a different perspective, bit in the end you have to decide for yourself not looking to anothers expectations or aoproval
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    Jul 13, 2013, 08:00 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    People have their likes, dislikes and preferences. Its Okay questioning things, looking at things from a different perspective, bit in the end you have to decide for yourself not looking to anothers expectations or aoproval
    Exactly... you stand for what you believe... even if its not popular... not agree with what's popular with the group you happen to be with at that moment. And something else with another group...

    THAT will get you a bad rep and you will find nobody trusting you very quickly.
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    Jul 13, 2013, 08:07 PM
    I was wanting to give you a greenie Smoothie but all I have is this mobile with no rep :(
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    Jul 13, 2013, 11:19 PM
    You actually took on a theory that only certain women can be beautiful?
    WHY? It sounds like you were doing fine, from the heart, what you feel, who you think is attractive to YOU, and suddenly you drop all that for some 'theory' by a bud who likes telling you what to think?
    Get your own mind back, and soon. And stop hanging out with friends who are know it alls.
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    Jul 16, 2013, 01:12 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    You actually took on a theory that only certain women can be beautiful?
    WHY? It sounds like you were doing fine, from the heart, what you feel, who you think is attractive to YOU, and suddenly you drop all that for some 'theory' by a bud who likes telling you what to think?
    Get your own mind back, and soon. And stop hanging out with friends who are know it alls.
    Thanks man... but I tell you its been hard as trying to be me... I mean for a while I was changing everything about myself literally. Mabye it was good to have that happen, I can't tell. I thought if I had changed things that id get a girlfriend and be strong and courageous, but one thing surely led to everything. Thanks again dude... appreciate it

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