This is about an affair which started with the true feeling of love and future marriage by me and I was sure that from the guys end too the feelings are mutual we were together for 23 months , I was very shy and never preffered being physical but he first startes kissing me with the assurance that don't worry at all you are the one then we got more closer in terms of touching each other sucking etc I was insure in deep down but trusted him for this ,then he did phone sex as we were apart but in last oct we he broak up with me due to his parents un willingness for marriage but I think when you love some one no one can stop u,he went I fought with him ,I cried , I begged ,I cursed even but nothing changed he now hates me and is some onther girl . I am very depressed due to this I feel as I'm a use and throw glass ,he insulted my dignity ,he broke his promise, the main problem is this that though now I know that he has gone still I love him and want him back so if any of you have any idea or any thing which can heal my wounds I will be grateful to you pepole,my mind and my heart are both streaching me in different directions. Help me for this .[/B]

Shikha, I am sorry for your loss. There isn't really much I can do to "solve this" or ease your pain. Your relationship ending is a big hurt and you will need to grieve this loss. I can understand why you feel so devastated, you were lied to! The best thing you can do is accept that it is over so the grief process won't be delayed. You do not want a liar back, trust me. The next best thing you can do is learn from it so that you make the pain count for something. You have at least learned that love does not make someone honorable. Next time be more careful-- which means not bitter, not suspicious but full of care, careful. Go slower and check him out more thoroughly. In love there are no guarantees so there is always some risk--it is like that for all of us. Lastly be extra kind to yourself these days and know that you will not always feel this way. Time will be your friend. Seek out your real friends and hang more with them too.