What are these things that you've done that you consider to be so horrible? My guess if that he is actually angry with his Dad. Since he is young, and can't see the whole situation, and the sacrifices you've made to raise him and his sister, that he is lashing out at you, when in fact it was his Dad that left his life. He has probably got an unrealistic image in his head about how it would be a warm and fuzzy reunion with his Dad, when in fact, that probably won't be the case. He is probably thinking that his Dad will go to baseball games with him, take him fishing, do father and son things, and so on.
I have first hand experience with this. My son (step) moved here to Canada to be with his Dad. His Dad had very little to do with his children at all. Didn't pay child support, didn't call the kids, didn't so much as send a B'day or C'mas card. My son came here with great expectations, and he was also treating his Mother very badly.
Well sorry to say, my "son" got a real wake up call. Sure it was fun for a little while, but that's all it was, a little while. Dad treated him like a buddy, and then went back to his normal life.
My "son" was so hurt, he moved back to England, started doing bad things, and hanging out with the wrong crowd. Two days ago, he was sentenced to 2 yrs in prison.
Now he is counting on his Mum, and Me to support him. He was always such a good boy, but because of his Dad's lack of interest, he lashed out, and got himself into a heap of trouble.
All I can tell you, is to try and not take what he says personally. He's making you the fall guy right now, because he thinks you're to blame for his Dad leaving. Don't let that weigh on your shoulders. You did your best, when you were all alone. Keep you head up! Your son will eventually realise all you've done for him. :)
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