[mounteajade]

My mother's friend, I'll call her Betty here, is very bossy and demanding. She is losing her temper, losing all logic, and thus losing her family and friends.
A few months ago, during an argument between she and her husband, he told her that he had started seeing someone else.
Yes, we all pitied her. But now, I am very angry at her and pity her husband much more. Her husband agreed to stop seeing the girl, but she would not let this go. She wants revenge, revenge on the girl!
Being her best friend, my mother is miserable and disturbed by how Betty has changed And how Betty keeps calling my mother about this matter and bosses my mother to help her in her revenge. My mother tried to calm her down. My mother tried to reason with her, telling her to use this time to amend her relationship with her husband instead of seeking useless revenge.
Betty would not listen.
Betty would not listen to anyone about anything that is different from her own.
Betty is making her whole family - her husband, her 2 children- and my mother (her only friend left) very miserable.
My mother tried to persuade her to see a psychologist, but OF Course, She would not Listen~

She thinks everything is everyone else's fault. She never stops to think about how she can improve herself.
She is violent to her children; and Argues with Everyone who might disagree with her.

How can my mother help Betty?
How can I help my mother to not get trapped in Betty's misery?

[fredg]

Hi,
Personally, I would talk with your Mom, and explain to her that she has done all she can. Does your Mom get out much? Go to Church? See different people during the week? Or weekends?
She really needs to be with others, to help get this mess with her friend off her mind.
In fact, she needs to possibly stop talking with this "friend" before she gets pulled down with her.
The same thing happened to one of my best friends. She and this other woman were "high school" best friends. Now, 40 yrs later, they finally went their separate ways... just too much difference in attitudes.
Your Mom would be much, much better off, not talking with, or even seeing this person, Betty, anymore. It's no wonder Betty has only your Mom now for a "friend". It's possible that if your Mom could come to not communicating with Betty anymore, it might wake Betty up to the fact that something is really wrong with her; and with her attitudes.