Last year, I met someone at work. We began dating, even though I was in another relationship, sort of. My other relationship I had ben disconnected from for a long time. So, I found myself moving in with my co-worker with my two children ages 6 and 1. Things were going relatively fine, however, when ever I have to speak to one of the girl's fathers, my sig. other gets extremely upset. Actually accuses me of things. Well everything boiled down to one evening where he actually yelled at my 6 year old to the point of excess. I am in the middle of a custody battle, and now, my ex went to court and got a restraining order that prevents my sig. other from being in the home at the same time as my 6 year old.
She is gone every Wednesday and everyother weekend. Now, even on my weekends, the sig other gets upset if I don't send her somewhere else to stay for at least one night. He calls NON stop, all night every night. Some nights are fine, other's he is dumping me, calling me a liar, and then acting like everything is okay in the morning.
The main problem is that we work together and his BFF is the boss! So I guess I should be prepared to lose my job.
Things were great at one point, and now I look at him and all I see is the sacrificing that I have to do for him. He says that I need to honor him as a friend and a lover, and that I don't give enough for him. I have a full time job, two young children, I go to school, and then I'm supposed to keep up the house while he isn't there. I am growing more and more resentful of him, but I don't know what to do. Any ideas?

It amazes me that you have not ended the relationship. Exactly how excessive does the yelling have to be to get a restraining order approved?


Seriously, this is a situation where you have to step up and be a parent first. If I were the other parent I would've already moved for custody.